what do I do if I hate my dress?

Mara Jade_20884484

So, I went with some friends to a bridal fair. No--they didn't mind if I tried on a few dresses, but that's all I wanted to do: get a few ideas. Next thing I new, I'd bought a dress. Now, I am often in tears about this and I haven't gone to pick it up. All the paperwork says the usual about no returns.

I feel dumb and totally talked into this. Do I suck it up? Do I have any other choice?

Mara Jade_20884484

In Response to Re: what do I do if I hate my dress?:
[QUOTE]In Response to what do I do if I hate my dress? : Well, if you bought a dress, it's yours. You can sell it on Ebay, OnceWed, Preownedweddingdresses. You can donate it to a good cause and take the tax writeoff You can add a sash or other accessories and make it your own. Can you post a picture of it? What did you like at the time that you don't like now?
Posted by itzMS[/QUOTE]

Everyone said how great I looked and the mirror looked ok--and then I saw a picture (admittedly taken on a cell phone). If that was "great", I can't imagine what the others looked like. Not sure these ladies are my friends.

It's a second wedding for me (#1 for my fiance) and yet it seems like the dress is trying to be a first. I

I plan on going with my sister to pick the dress up--and thought she loves me, she's never lied to me.

My fiance, bless his heart, says he loves me no matter what I wear.

Mara Jade_20884484

In Response to Re: what do I do if I hate my dress?:
[QUOTE]In Response to what do I do if I hate my dress? : I really don't understand this at all.  You are an adult.  No one forced you to buy the dress.
Posted by CMGr[/QUOTE]

Yes--I'm an adult. Still doesn't mean adults can't get caught up in the emotion of a situation. If my mom was still alive, it would have been her and me.

I guess I posted this here in the hopes of some good advice. Like go and look again. Add accessories. Sell it or donate it.

QueerFemme

In Response to Re: what do I do if I hate my dress?:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: what do I do if I hate my dress? : Yes--I'm an adult. Still doesn't mean adults can't get caught up in the emotion of a situation. If my mom was still alive, it would have been her and me. I guess I posted this here in the hopes of some good advice. Like go and look again. Add accessories. Sell it or donate it.
Posted by Mara Jade[/QUOTE]

Go pick it up. Try it on again with your hair and makeup done.  See if you still hate it.  If you do, sell it, but realize you'll only get about 40-50% of what you paid for it.  If you can afford another dress, I see no reason why you need to "suck it up", but I don't know your financial situation.

Uberoom12

You should pick it up and try it one more time.  Have some faith; sometimes the first choice is the best good one.

And if you don´t like it, then you can sell it and start over again. Never give up, is never too late to find the correct one.

msuprincess04

In Response to Re: what do I do if I hate my dress?:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: what do I do if I hate my dress? : Yes--I'm an adult. Still doesn't mean adults can't get caught up in the emotion of a situation. If my mom was still alive, it would have been her and me. I guess I posted this here in the hopes of some good advice. Like go and look again. Add accessories. Sell it or donate it.
Posted by Mara Jade[/QUOTE]

She wasn't trying to be mean. But the quicker you take responsibility for buying a dress, you can move on and not feel spiteful towards your friends. They didn't lie to you, they weren't trying to hurt you. They probably genuinely liked the dress and wanted you to get it. So it doesn't help to blame them for your decision.

You already have some great ideas, if, when you try on the dress again, you don't like it. Go with the positive. You'll be fine.

And it doesn't matter how many weddings you've been in. If you are a bride, you can wear whatever wedding dress you want.

Mara Jade_20884484

In Response to Re: what do I do if I hate my dress?:
[QUOTE]You do seem to be trying to blame your decision on your friends.
Posted by CMGr[/QUOTE]

No. I own this decision. I own not just walking away if I wasn't feeling that "this" was the dress. It is no one's fault but mine.

Mara Jade_20884484

What I wondered was....cause I clearly didn't make it clear and spent too much time on background of the shopping.

Has anyone been in this situation? If so, what did you do? Did you go try it and it was good? Did you suck it up and regret it?

Guess I deserve being chewed out if you think I blame them. I blame me--hence the tears.

QueerFemme

In Response to Re: what do I do if I hate my dress?:
[QUOTE]What I wondered was....cause I clearly didn't make it clear and spent too much time on background of the shopping. Has anyone been in this situation? If so, what did you do? Did you go try it and it was good? Did you suck it up and regret it? Guess I deserve being chewed out if you think I blame them. I blame me--hence the tears.
Posted by Mara Jade[/QUOTE]

I hated my dress. I spent $1100.00 on a dress and hated it. I spent the next 5 months making myself INSANE. I went shopping AGAIN, and AGAIN, I even bought a second dress.  Then, I tried on my original dress again, and it really was better than any other dress I tried on. So I ended up selling the second dress that I bought, and wore my original dress.

A LOT of brides here have dress regret. But, you are the only one who can decide if you want to buy another gown.  If you feel like you didn't get the experience, you should go shopping again, and see if there is something you like better.  But, be prepared to buy a second dress.  Don't go shopping if you don't have the budget.

Mara Jade_20884484

In Response to Re: what do I do if I hate my dress?:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: what do I do if I hate my dress? : I hated my dress. I spent $1100.00 on a dress and hated it. I spent the next 5 months making myself INSANE. I went shopping AGAIN, and AGAIN, I even bought a second dress.  Then, I tried on my original dress again, and it really was better than any other dress I tried on. So I ended up selling the second dress that I bought, and wore my original dress. A LOT of brides here have dress regret. But, you are the only one who can decide if you want to buy another gown.  If you feel like you didn't get the experience, you should go shopping again, and see if there is something you like better.  But, be prepared to buy a second dress.  Don't go shopping if you don't have the budget.
Posted by cmgilpin[/QUOTE]

Thanks for your insight! It's good to know that someone out there has felt this. You are awesome and I thank you for sharing.

footballwife77

i'm a lurker on this board, I had a really bad first experience with a dress, then went "reality" shopping. I found a dress, then shut myself in the house and watched "I found the gown", "4 weddings", and everyother wedding show you can think of for 8 months straight. Guess what, I ended up hating my dress. Lol! So I went again. Luckily, I didn't find anything that really blew my mind. However, my MIL altered my jacket it came with and it completely changed the look of the dress. But- I did have an impulse buy and bought this pearl headband with a metal flower for $125. Didn't really match my dress or look good in my hair, so I did take a $50 loss on that. I sold it on preownedweddingdresses.com. I caught a deal where it was only $5 to sell an accessory. So moral of the story- Try accessories (you can return) to play it up a bit. You'll really be amazed at what a jacket, belt, or even a necklace can do to a dress.

csweaney

I'm sorry to hear that you hate your dress and that you've been driven to tears about it

Try it on again. Try accessorizing it. Consider alterations. Do everything in your power to make the dress work if you can and if you can't visualize it/still don't like it sell it or donate it and go shopping again. This time take just one person (maybe mom?) and take your time. Don't rush. 

I hope I've been able to help!

boomboom1243

i think i dont like my dress and my wedding is 3 weeks away... Once im all put together hair makeup tiara veil.. im sure i will be fine though.. its not really about the dress its about getting married.

KDM323

Go back and try it again.  Try adding accessories.  It just sounds like you have a bit of regret right now...it is ok.

Like you said...your fiancee loves you...that's what is important.  Not a dress.


You can figure this out!

suzyk723

You can always sell it. I would  be cautious because i don't know if you will be bale to get the same price you paid for it. Its your day and you want to feel beaut full. If you do not feel comfortable in your dress you most likely will not like your photos.

Imabridetoo

A lot of girls are two dress brides. Why do we women beat ourselves up over this? With so many dresses out there I am surprised that we aren't three and four dress brides! There is just way too much choice and it can get really frustrating when you go shopping! I just want to be done with finding my dress but then I worry if something prettier will not come out next month in a magazine or something....