Somebody tell me I'm being ridiculous

Teddy917

I got a job. I'm naturally a worrywart. So naturally I'm already a little nervous and wanting to do well. I currently live with my parents since I have no money for my own place. Well instead of building me up, they keep saying that I better be perfect. That the manager won't forgive any mistake. Etc. So I'm so stressed out that it is now affecting me physically. My back started hurting terribly and all my muscles were stiff. So please somebody tell me that there's nothing to worry about. I keep telling myself that I'll just do my best and it'll be fine. But with everyone else making me feel like I'm going to fail before I even start, it's not working.
Sorry for lack of paragraphs. Knotting from my iPod and its not letting me do paragraphs.

Peledreamsofrain

Well I don't think you're silly. It's healthy to want to do your very best and impress at a new job. On the other hand, a wigged out high strung newbie employee usually doesn't go over well. Just relax and be yourself while focusing on producing quality work.

s-aries8990

Just relax. You won't perform well if you're worried about your performance. Your being too hard on yourself- just pay close attention to the culture, find out who is your best bet to ask questions, and you'll be all set.

Don't freak out!

AddieCake

Ignore those comments and do the best you can. Easier said than done, I know. That sucks that your parents are being like that. 

audreyecu61

Turn off the negative comments from your parents, thing of something else when they start to say things to you.  Count backwards in your head.

Take a deep breath and focus on your job. Remember the job is a way to save money and be out on your own, without your parents.

nsweare

I really doubt your new employer expects you to be "perfect" right from the get-go. All jobs have a learning curve. They wouldn't have hired you if they didn't think you were right for the job. Try to relax as best you can. You will be fine. Good luck!

Also, your parents really need some lessons on how to give pep talks. They kinda suck at it.

misssunshine17

My first day of student teaching, another teacher told me that if you're nervous, it means that you care. Some butterflies are a good thing, physically hurting isn't. Do you have some time to do something fun and relax? 

CLoGreenEyes

I'm sorry your parents aren't being more encouraging. I agree with misssunshine, I think being nervous is a sign that you want to do well and that you're motivated to be a good employee and learn the job. Your new boss is certainly going to notice that and should be providing you with the knowledge and tools you need to be successful; you're not going to get the boot for making a few mistakes or being a little slower at first. Just learn what you can, ask a lot of questions, and be a conscientious hard worker - you'll do great

glitterunicorn13

Disregard those comments and that negative energy.  I have the same kind of parents.  Through many life experiences I have had to learn that I am responsible for my own inner peace.  So, when my mom makes a jab, I say to myself, "Is that even rational?" Most likely it isn't and so I press on with that understanding.  You will make it and do fine.  Just because they say it doesn't make it true. You are worthy of greatness!

BostonGIrl4732

My dad is similar to your parents I think.  I've just started tuning him out.  He's jealous that I make more than he does because I went to college (and he didn't).  I have drive, and that scares him so he tried to tell me that I have to be perfect or I'll lose my job.  Two years later after NOT being perfect, but being willing to learn and fix my mistakes and I still have my job.

Be willing to learn.  Be open to new ideas.  You'll do fine.

rel1988

My parents are like this sometimes...They nag a lot and have always put a lot of pressure on me but I know because in their own weird way they want the best for me.

Have some self-confidence! They hired you so they obviously think you were the best fit for the job. Take pride in knowing that. It's great you are worried because it shows you want to do you best, just take a deep breath and try and relax. Good luck!

Teddy917

Thanks guys