I never got a wedding, really. Since H and I both lost our jobs, we got a tiny ceremony with my H's parents and sister, his grandmothers, his Aunt (who married us) and his cousins. My father and uncle were the only people from my side there, and my mother (who was in the hospital) was on speakerphone. We WERE going to just go to the courthouse, but his mother and my mother vetoed that idea. I wore slacks and a nice shirt, as did H. So we got married, had some sandwiches, and then everyone went about their day. His sister went to work, we went back to his parents' house, where we're living for the time being, and that was it. Nothing special except that it was the day we got married.
That being said, is it so wrong that I want to have a bigger ceremony for our extended families and close friends on our one year anniversary? A vow renewal of sorts, for those who never got to see our vows exchanged, but really the wedding we never got to have. We'll have the money for one, my parents bought me a gorgeous, expensive looking but very cheap (for a wedding gown at least) gown that I LOVE. It's ivory, not white, which I think is appropriate. I want to have attendants, and H is fine with that. His friends want to stand with him and (I hope) mine want to stand with me. We're not doing a full on reception. We'll be doing a BBQ with some music, great food, and a chance for our families and friends to mingle and get to know each other. We'll probably have a friend take pictures so we at east HAVE "wedding" pictures, which we really don't right now. After all, his family is mine and mine is his now, so it would be nice if they all met. I'm talking like, 80 people (us included) hanging out in a park eating great food. Like a family reunion, but dressier (at least on my part ;P).
Is it wrong to want to have the "wedding" we never had, big dress and a few attendants but minimal decorations? I know some people try to recreate their weddings for a vow renewal, but since I never really had one to recreate is it weird to want to have one?