Hair, SIL, Brother, not a good situation, just a vent

audreyecu61

My SIL is a hair stylist. I did not ask her to do my hair or that of my wedding party for the following reasons: 1) I have a hair stylist, we love her. 2) My brother is super protective of his life and as a result his wife 3) When they got married, he made it clear there would be no one in family taking advantage of SIL talents (it was really meant for my mom who wants everything for free) 4) They live rather far for me to drive to see her 5) She works on commission and yes I would have paid her as I would use her, but I wouldn't want to take up her day and not allow her to make money. 6) No one has her cell phone or e-mail, he says they share and e-mail. 7) They are notoriously late for everything, including their own wedding, over an hour.8) I always take care of things myself and would not want to infringe on SIL time like that.

And again I love my hairdresser and I've seen her for years, my daughters all go to her, etc. I took care of the hair issue months ago. So now my brother sends me e-mail saying SIL needs pictures of hair dos, to do my hair, etc. I sent back nice e-mail thanking them profusely but saying I'd made my own arrangements.

I know my brother, he will be hurt. I mean what is he thinking? I have a hair dresser. And I'm NOT the type of person who goes to everyone for help, I'm the one who always takes care of business on my own. My brother doesn't come to family birthdays unless it is for the 'kids', not sibling b-days.So talk about anger issues.

My SIL, knows I have a regular stylist and has even commented that she likes the way my hair is done, so SIL will be mature aobut it.

One more thing, my MOH (who is a man) is giving me a pool party/barbeque. Not really a shower just a friends of the bride party, and brother and SIL are not coming. Since I don't have SIL e-mail had to evite brother, he responded no, almost right away.

Oh did I mention my brother is 46!

Thanks, I feel better

 

 

MyNameIsNot

audreyecu61 said:

My SIL is a hair stylist. I did not ask her to do my hair or that of my wedding party for the following reasons: 1) I have a hair stylist, we love her. 2) My brother is super protective of his life and as a result his wife 3) When they got married, he made it clear there would be no one in family taking advantage of SIL talents (it was really meant for my mom who wants everything for free) 4) They live rather far for me to drive to see her 5) She works on commission and yes I would have paid her as I would use her, but I wouldn't want to take up her day and not allow her to make money. 6) No one has her cell phone or e-mail, he says they share and e-mail. 7) They are notoriously late for everything, including their own wedding, over an hour.8) I always take care of things myself and would not want to infringe on SIL time like that.

And again I love my hairdresser and I've seen her for years, my daughters all go to her, etc. I took care of the hair issue months ago. So now my brother sends me e-mail saying SIL needs pictures of hair dos, to do my hair, etc. I sent back nice e-mail thanking them profusely but saying I'd made my own arrangements.

I know my brother, he will be hurt. I mean what is he thinking? I have a hair dresser. And I'm NOT the type of person who goes to everyone for help, I'm the one who always takes care of business on my own. My brother doesn't come to family birthdays unless it is for the 'kids', not sibling b-days.So talk about anger issues.

My SIL, knows I have a regular stylist and has even commented that she likes the way my hair is done, so SIL will be mature aobut it.

One more thing, my MOH (who is a man) is giving me a pool party/barbeque. Not really a shower just a friends of the bride party, and brother and SIL are not coming. Since I don't have SIL e-mail had to evite brother, he responded no, almost right away.

Oh did I mention my brother is 46!

Thanks, I feel better

 

 

Unless your brother says or does something to make you think he's upset, leave it alone.  He might be just fine or even relieved.

If he does say something, tell him that you would rather SIL be able to enjoy the day and be with family rather than have to work all day.  

Peledreamsofrain

Whoa whoa whoa.  It's entirely possible that your mother tried to score a free hairstyle behind your back, and now both you and your brother are bristling at each other.

runpipparun

My hair drama is good, too. When I moved in with my FI, I moved an hour away from my old stylist, so I found a new one. I was sitting in her chair for the first time when we were talking about our pets and she started RAILING on this ridiculous vet in town who didn't understand her tiny, 2-lb "apple-headed chihuahuas." And I was thinking, "OMG. She's b*tching about my FI. This is the crazy apple-headed chihuahua lady FI complains about! Her dogs are deformed and hydrocephalous with eyes that point in different directions and she keeps breeding them anyway... Yikes." That was an awkward appointment.

That was over two months ago and I haven't gone back and I haven't found a new stylist. I'm getting married in 2 weeks. I'm afraid to get my hair trimmed by someone new before the wedding, but my hair looks like crap.