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update to "i need a hug"

I got a text from my x friend (I guess I should call her that) today while I was at work telling me that she was going to be induced tonight. I wished her congratulations and best wishes about an hour after because I was at work and I keep my phone in my bag.

She texted back saying "this is exactly why... you're life always comes first"

I am beyond confused and hurt.

I'm washing my hands of this.

Again, thank you everyone for all your kind words. I promise my next post will be positive.

Re: update to "i need a hug"

  • You're the one with the friend who "demoted" you from being godmother, yes?

    Wow, what a hurtful thing to say! I'd be so tempted to respond back, "Yes, my life does come first." Does she honestly expect you to put your life behind hers? To be at her every beck and call? That's insane. I feel sorry for her SO (haha) if she treats her friends this way. 

    *Hugs!* You're better off without this "friend."
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  • colexcolex member
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    Yes, that's me. 

    After some soul searching and spending time angry that's the conclusion I've come to, I'm better off without her, but it does still hurt

    The kicker was I was at work, I teach, so it's not like my hours change ever and I can't respond to messages during the day because I don't have my phone with me.
  • Wow what a twat.  You're exactly right-- You're better off without 'friends' like this.  Consider it a blessing. That kid has no chance.
  • wow.  How could you let YOUR life come before her and her baby? /sarcasm

  • I'm sorry you're going through that. Losing a friend sucks.  Best of luck!
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  • Love it, @Harry87. OP, have a glass of wine or some really good chocolate. You've put up with way more than I ever would. There'd be no way I would have responded to her text ... ever.
  • wiki8wiki8 member
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    Just caught up on your other post! You definitely don't need her in your life. I completely understand being hurt, especially if this seems out of the blue and unlike her. But you can bet it would only get worse. Yes her life is important, yes the fact that she is having a child is important, but it would never in a million years be more important to you than your own life. You aren't going to drop everything else in your life and be "all about the baby." That's not what being a godparent is all about!

    Imagine if you even thought about having your own baby any time around her designated baby raising years?!

    Cut your losses. I'm sure you have better friends out there. That poor kid is going to be a terror.
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  • You're better off without having to deal with her crazypants. Sorry you're loosing a friend though, that's never easy. 
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