Ceremony wording with divorced parents?

oxdelaney

Both my FI's and my parents are divorced. All our parents are remarried (except my mom, who is single). We want to do the part in the ceremony where the parents stand and give permission. We can't decide if we should ask our biological parents to stand or when we ask, we should ask all parents and step-parents to stand.

On one side, it's a wedding and we should honor the marital ties in our family. 

On the other side, my FI and I's step-parents did not raise us and married into the family when we were in our late teens.

WWYD?

yellowdaisies84

I would include the step-parents too but leave out any mention of raising or nurturing you. They can still be asked to give their blessing and support. There's no reason to separate 'real' parents from 'step' parents- that could easily hurt feelings.

As our sons and daughters find partners and homes for the next generation, each family is enriched and enlarged. Would the parents of the bride and groom please stand. (all stand)

This occasion is a special celebration for you. Your continuing support is needed as bride and groom unite in marriage. Will you try, with the greatest love and wisdom you have, support this new couple and help in every way? (OR, if you prefer: Do you bestow your blessing on their union and their family?)