Bridal Party Member Has Two Weddings the Same Day

muenginerd

One of FI’s Groomsman mentioned this weekend that he just found out he has two more weddings the day of ours.  He was asked to be in ours 3 months ago.  Groomsman is a close friend of the FI for the last 5 years or so.

 

Turns out these other two weddings are friends of his FI.  I suggested that maybe Groomsman can come to our wedding and his FI (then wife) can go to her friend’s wedding.  FI gave me a weird look like I would consider this?  Has no one else done this?  It’s been pretty common in my group of friends, especially in the “out of college – everyone is getting married” phase.  Sometimes couples would split up for the day if there were dueling weddings of different friends or if out of town weddings would be an added expense of airfare for a quick trip.<?xml:namespace prefix = o ns = "urn:schemas-microsoft-com:office:office" />

NOLAbridealmost

I'd go to a very close friend's wedding without H if he had a very close friend getting married the same day and I wasn't close to H's friend at all.  But otherwise we would most likely decide to go together to the wedding we we committed to first (either by already RSVPing yes to an invitation or by agreeing in advance of the invitation to be in the wedding). 

This is why it's important to clear potential wedding dates with VIPs before setting it in stone (not that YOU failed to do this....it sounds like he agreed to be in your wedding first). 

AddieCake

I'm with NOLA. 

Belle0720

Ditto NOLA

I was in a wedding last year where one of the other bridesmaid's fiance was also in a wedding the same day. They both went to the weddings they were in separately. For that same wedding, there was a groomsman whose FIL was getting married that day too. GM came for the ceremony and some pics, left for the FIL's wedding and then came back later in the reception.  

muenginerd

NOLAbridealmost said:

I'd go to a very close friend's wedding without H if he had a very close friend getting married the same day and I wasn't close to H's friend at all.  But otherwise we would most likely decide to go together to the wedding we we committed to first (either by already RSVPing yes to an invitation or by agreeing in advance of the invitation to be in the wedding). 

This is why it's important to clear potential wedding dates with VIPs before setting it in stone (not that YOU failed to do this....it sounds like he agreed to be in your wedding first). 

This is exactly what I thought.  Unfortunately, Groomsmen’s FI is a controlling not nice person.  Safe money is on that she won’t allow him to be in the wedding.  She goes out of her way to not have anything to do with his circle of friends no matter the many times we’ve reached out to her.  I’m just sad for FI because I know the comment bothered him.  We’ve got alittle ways to go until the wedding so I told him to just wait and see how things play out.  If he’s not there then he’s not there, his loss.  We won’t replace him so his spot is there if he wants it.    <?xml:namespace prefix = o ns = "urn:schemas-microsoft-com:office:office" />

Kate61487

muenginerd said:

NOLAbridealmost said:

I'd go to a very close friend's wedding without H if he had a very close friend getting married the same day and I wasn't close to H's friend at all.  But otherwise we would most likely decide to go together to the wedding we we committed to first (either by already RSVPing yes to an invitation or by agreeing in advance of the invitation to be in the wedding). 

This is why it's important to clear potential wedding dates with VIPs before setting it in stone (not that YOU failed to do this....it sounds like he agreed to be in your wedding first). 

This is exactly what I thought.  Unfortunately, Groomsmen’s FI is a controlling not nice person.  Safe money is on that she won’t allow him to be in the wedding.  She goes out of her way to not have anything to do with his circle of friends no matter the many times we’ve reached out to her.  I’m just sad for FI because I know the comment bothered him.  We’ve got alittle ways to go until the wedding so I told him to just wait and see how things play out.  If he’s not there then he’s not there, his loss.  We won’t replace him so his spot is there if he wants it.    

That totally blows, but it's still on him that he's in a relationship where he lets a girl tell him where to go and who to hang out with.  I'm with NOLA in that I'd rather go to a wedding together; but I would never dream of asking H to skip a wedding he really wanted to attend (especially if he was in it!)

MsYeck

If I read it right the groomsmen's fiancée is in neither wedding she is just invited. So the option sould be on her either go to your wedding with her husband or her friends alone. I don't see it as a big deal, my fiancée ha to go to his half sisters wedding without me because my employees due date is the same day so if she goes to labor I have to be there to work.

ranzzo

One of my close friends was in my wedding the same day her FI was in another.  They both went to the weddings they were part of alone without any issues.