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NWR-Baby shower

My sister is pregnant, first baby for both families, and we are all really excited.  I want to throw my sis a baby shower, and thought it would be fun to do it with her SIL. The only issue is that I live about 8 hours away from them, and her hubby's sister lives in the next city over, so I don't want to seem like I am asking to host it at her place or anything.  I'm pretty sure that she would love to help plan a baby shower, I just don't know the etiquette around suggesting it.  My sister is not into shower type things, so I def don't want to get into a situation where she is thrown more then 1 shower by family.  Thanks!
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Re: NWR-Baby shower

  • itzMSitzMS member
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    Another ditto for Lia. Just wanted to add that you will want to ask your sister first if she'd even like a shower. Consider a couples shower, as well. I am pretty anti-shower myself, and I wouldn't be too thrilled with someone planning a shower for me behind my back as a "surprise"
  • lalanslalans member
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    Thanks for the input!  

    Itzms, I do think she would prefer no shower, but if I plan/host, at least she can be really blunt and tell me what she hates that I suggest....she can't do that as well with her MIL or some of her friends, and if I don't do a shower I'm pretty sure someone else will make her.
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  • Wait, she doesn't want a shower? Then I wouldn't try to throw one for her.  If someone else offers, she can politely decline.
  • If your sister doesn't want a shower, don't throw her one.  It's not a nice thing to do to throw a party for someone who doesn't want one.
  • itzMSitzMS member
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    lalans said:
    Thanks for the input!  

    Itzms, I do think she would prefer no shower, but if I plan/host, at least she can be really blunt and tell me what she hates that I suggest....she can't do that as well with her MIL or some of her friends, and if I don't do a shower I'm pretty sure someone else will make her.

    No one can "make" you have a shower. Trust me on this one, I politely declined 5 separate offers for a bridal shower.

    It really grinds my gears that so many people feel it's almost a requirement to have a shower if you are getting married or having a baby. It's totally okay for a grown woman to not want or need to be showered with gifts. Sheesh. /rant

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