What's wrong with this paragraph?

crunchymamaof2

Someone posted their wedding website. I love looking at others to get ideas as I'm clueless when it comes to mine. This particular paragraph made me think of you wonderful ladies :-) 

 

"The wedding will take place at blah blah blah blah. Dress will be smart casual.  Children are welcome to attend. 

*Because of the venue (golf course) we have chosen, we have limited seating for the ceremony (reception will accomodate plenty of seating).  We apologize in advance for this.  We ask that everyone be courteous of those around them and to please allow immediate family of the bride & groom to have the first two rows of seats, then for the elderly, pregnant, handicap, etc in the next few rows.

The reception will be immediately following the ceremony with light refreshments at the same location."

 

I'm getting married at a golf club and have seats for everyone. I have no idea how a golf club = not enough seats. Plus the other gems.

hordol

That is interesting....is getting some more folding chairs that hard?

tiny speck

I think smart casual is another way of saying business casual, but I may be wrong. But dictating how your guests should dress is wrong. As is just about everything else in that paragraph.

misssunshine17

It's raining and I haven't had my coffee... I hate the girl who wrote this. Seriously. 

emeejeeayen

tiny speck said:

I think smart casual is another way of saying business casual, but I may be wrong. But dictating how your guests should dress is wrong. As is just about everything else in that paragraph.

I know business smart basically means business casual but ~~stylish (ugh)? So I think smart casual is sort of like saying... don't dress up, but wear the latest fashion? IDK. 

Odd.

LAM524

WOW!  This triage reminds me of the Titanic as it was going down!! !!! How the heck will this seating request be enforced? How are guests suppose to know who all is family? Ridiculous! I wouldnt want that rude job of asking someone to move out of their seat because they are not pregnant, handicapped, or as important as family! I suppose they could have escorts who can ask for ID! Or guests can be mailed color coded bracelets letting the escorts know who to seat and where! ugh!

Now Im curious for a resolve! Besides having enough chairs, couldnt they "mark" the family (parents) seats? My church has a very fancy rope on posts things that they set out which "blocks" the first 2 rows but dont guests usually know the first few rows are for family, in the least the first row? Have a handicapped section?

btw...what are "light refreshments?"

crunchymamaof2

I wish I could point out all these things to her. But the thread she posted her site in had nothing to do with etiquette. There's just really no excuse for most of the things they're doing.

16maybeless

On one hand, it's nice to have the heads up that some guests will be standing ...

... on the other hand, is it that difficult to get extra folding chairs? I ask this seriously ... is it?

southernbelle0915

hey @acove2006... it's not April Fool's Day. Tell her to get this off her website. Joke's over.

annathy03

jss0302 said: I'd bring my own lawn chair. And if the ceremony is at a meal time, I might even bring my own food- but that could just the heifer in me. I loved this.  I've been to two weddings without enough seating, the first I had to stand and the grooms family was all very tall, so even at 5'10" + heels I couldn't see the ceremony.  Glad I drove 8 hours for that.  The second there were about a dozen male guests that ended up standing, FI included.  It was nice that the guys insisted all the ladies get a seat, but I still wonder if the venue messed up b/c it seems very unlike that particular couple to do that.

annathy03

Not sure why the quote box isn't working on my previous post, it shows back up again like magic if I go to edit it.

LAM524

@stagemanager14...thanks! No alcohol?

crunchymamaof2

considering the ceremony starts at 4pm, I'd say this falls under a meal time. So not sure if "light refreshments" is gonna fly.

 

whoops- didn't realize I edited the time out. Yeah, it starts at 4pm.

Jen4948

Well, thanks for giving me the heads-up to decline that invitation.  Having to stand with no guarantee of a seat is not okay.

VadersValkyrie

Some places charge per-chair rental fees.  If you are having a short ceremony (10-15 minutes), I know some places only set up enough chairs for the parents/grandparents.  A friend of mine got married (indoors) and there were no chairs, but the ceremony was only about ten minutes long.

monkeysip

I'm sure it seemed like a good idea.  If I just inform my guests ahead of time that there is limited seating, those who can stand will just stand and leave room for those who can't.

The problem is, it's very possible that no one will be comfortable enough to stand for what could potentially be 45 minutes if you include the time before and after the ceremony.

Plus, there are older gentlemen who cannot stand but will refuse to sit when there are ladies standing.  

People just don't think these things through (not to mention the "smart casual" thing... ugh).

QueerFemme

VadersValkyrie said:

Some places charge per-chair rental fees.  If you are having a short ceremony (10-15 minutes), I know some places only set up enough chairs for the parents/grandparents.  A friend of mine got married (indoors) and there were no chairs, but the ceremony was only about ten minutes long.

This is still horribly rude.  Guests typically arrive 15-30 minutes early.  Even a short, 10 minute ceremony, means guests have been standing for 30-45 minutes.    that's rude.