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Odd Thank You Conundrum

Long story short, I received two presents at my shower delivered via others from folks invited to the wedding but NOT invited to the shower. I'm not sure whether I should treat these as their wedding gifts (thank you from both FI and me) or as shower gifts. What do you think?

Re: Odd Thank You Conundrum

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    kaos16kaos16 member
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    In this case I don't think it would hurt to sign both your name and your fiance's name.
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    hordolhordol member
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    I would just sign both names--no harm in doing that. Even though traditionally, a shower is for the bride, grooms benefit from those gifts too since they are usually off the registry. It wouldn't be weird to include him on the thank you.
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    Treat it as a wedding gift and write a thank you note from you and your FI. If they give you another gift at the wedding, treat it as a wedding gift and write a thank you note from you and your FI.

    Honestly, my FI signed the thank you notes I wrote for my shower - he's going to use the stuff too. Just because it was a women's only shower doesn't mean the gifts were only for me. That's just my $0.02 on that, though.
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    It doesn't matter too much. For every gift we received, I signed the ones I wrote and he signed the ones he wrote.
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    Thank you all! For all the etiquette "rules," interesting to know there's some flexibility here (other than, always send a thank you, of course).
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    I would sign both names even on shower gifts. The gifts are for both of you, unless it's lingerie or something.
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    AddieL73 said:
    I would sign both names even on shower gifts. The gifts are for both of you, unless it's lingerie or something.

    Heck, especially if it's lingerie! :)
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    NYCMercedesNYCMercedes member
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    edited June 2013
    It doesn't matter if they are shower or wedding gifts. If you wrote it, you sign it. Be sure to mention him, as in, "mrclassyashley and I can't wait to use the blender".
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