Hi Knotties!
I know I have a lot of time to worry about this, since our wedding isn't until next year. However, my FMIL has been making plans for our rehearsal dinner, and I think there is a little disconnect with the guest list.
I understand a rehearsal dinner is for immediate family, bridesmaids and groomsmen and their guests, and anyone else who is involved in the wedding. My FMIL would like to stick to that, and has decided not to invite her brothers, sisters, and sister-in-laws, because she thinks that it should be a small, intimate affair. She has already told her family that they will not be expecting an invite. My mother, on the other hand, insists that her sister and brother-in-laws are invited to the rehearsal dinner. We are a very close family, and these invites would be normal for my family, despite the involvement (or uninvolvement) in the ceremony. My mother also says that all of their kids are involved in the wedding, so they should be there too. But all of my cousins are adults. Every time I bring this up to my mom, she gets very defensive.
I am very worried that this will cause tension between my mom and my FMIL. I do not know how to approach this at all. Advice will be greatly appreciated!!