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Who pays for hair/makeup on wedding day?

So I am having my hair stylist come in and do my hair on wedding day. I am also trying to find someone who can come and do my makeup as well. I am not requiring that any of my bridesmaids have their hair or makeup professionally done. I told them it is their choice how their hair and makeup is done. I feel if any of my girls choose to take advantage of these services, it would be a nice gesture if I paid for it. My question is if worse comes to worse and I cannot pay for everyones, is it wrong for them to pay for the services themselves since I am making them optional? 

Re: Who pays for hair/makeup on wedding day?

  • As long as it is optional you are under no obligation to pay.
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  • If you don't make them do it and truly make it optional then they can pay. If you require it, you should pay.
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  • ditto them.

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  • I've told my MOH and BM that they need to let me know by x date if they want their hair and make up professionally done, but that they will need to pay for it if they chose to have it. They seemed OK with it, and are opting to get it done and pay for it themselves (first time in a wedding party for both of them, they are excited and wanting to go all out).

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  • I did the same thing as @Bubbles2014.  I told my WP that I'm getting mine done, it will cost X amount, and that it's entirely optional.   

    One wants her makeup done, and the other two have yet to get back to me. 

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  • One of my BMs is a hairdresser and has offered to do my hair. I actually had asked if she would and asked how much she would charge, but she insisted it be her gift to me. She has another friend who has offered to do the hair of the rest of the bridal party as a gift gesture.

    I had originally told the BMs they could do their own hair and makeup themselves or get it done at their expense. 

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    I'd agree. Just make sure to tell everyone in advance how much it is so they can decide in advance if this is something they'd like to do. I am also under the assumption the stylist needs to know in advance how many ppl/how much time she will need. It's only necessary to pay if you are requiring it.
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    I told my bridesmaids: "You can do whatever you want with your hair and make-up.  If you want to do it yourself or at your own salon, we're meeting at XXX place for pictures at 12 PM.  If you want to meet up with me at XXX hotel beforehand, So-and-so will be in the hotel room for hair appointments starting at 8 AM. Whats-her-name will arrive at 9 AM for make-up.  It is $XX for an up-do, $XX for a blow-out. Make-up with whats-her-name is $XX.  Let me know if you'd like an appointment with either of these and I will schedule it for you. "

    Yeah, that.
  • My wedding is not where I live, we are all going to Miami... So, with that being said everyone is actually asking me about hair and make-up and expect to pay for these services since we are out of town. At $120 a girl for hair and make-up in Miami, I can't afford to pay for 8 girls to get this done... They all asked me how much it is so to budget this. I was surprised when two of them expected it to be more and thought it was reasonable!! Since I knew this was going to be pricey to begin with, I opted for an inexpensive dress to off-set the cost. If anyone says they can't afford it, I will have a cousin who is a hairdresser on standby to assist and ensure the look still falls with what I want...
  • I'll be getting my hair done the day of. Will invite mom, FSMIL, FBIL's gf (we think he's getting ready to propose, yay!) my nieces (flower girls) and my sister (nieces mom) if they want to get hair done too. May include SIL just so she's not left out of this.
  • gdipasqua said:
    My wedding is not where I live, we are all going to Miami... So, with that being said everyone is actually asking me about hair and make-up and expect to pay for these services since we are out of town. At $120 a girl for hair and make-up in Miami, I can't afford to pay for 8 girls to get this done... They all asked me how much it is so to budget this. I was surprised when two of them expected it to be more and thought it was reasonable!! Since I knew this was going to be pricey to begin with, I opted for an inexpensive dress to off-set the cost. If anyone says they can't afford it, I will have a cousin who is a hairdresser on standby to assist and ensure the look still falls with what I want...

    If you're telling them how to have it done, you pay. Period.
  • I had my hair done at my regular salon. I sent an email out with pricing information to everyone involved (including moms & sisters) and asked them to let me know if they wanted me to book a time slot of them by a specific date. I let them know that if they had their own stylist they prefered to go to or wanted to do their hair themselves (one of BM has a really cute pixie cut and there isn't anything a stylist could do that she couldn't do herself at home) that was fine with me as long as everyone was at the church by the designated time. One of my BM did the makeup of one of my other BM who doesn't normally wear makeup but wanted to for the special occasion. We even did a trial make up at my bachlorette party. It was a very nice thing for on BM to help the other BM save some money & still give her the look she was looking for that day.

  • no. you do not have to pay at all. their makeup and hair is part of their responsiblity with they accept role as bridesmaid.
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