Should I Invite My Twin Sister's In-law's to My Engagement Party?

Kaylee2786

I am inviting 60 people to my engagement party.  They are made up my fiancé’s family (siblings, cousins, etc.) and my family from my mother’s and father’s sides.  We’re also including my close friends and fiancé’s close friends.  I am also including only two sets of family friends that I am close to.  Should I invite my twin sister’s in-laws to my engagement party if my parents are hosting the party at my home (I currently live with my parents)?   Space is an issue but it would be possible to fit them, though it would be tight. 

I’ll describe my twin sister’s in-law's family (brother-in-law's family) first with the following facts:

The family in question is made up of 4 adults (Mother, father, and two sisters – one of which has a baby).  They live 10 minutes away from my parents, have hosted a birthday party for my twin sister and I recently in the past, have hosted my sister’s graduation party that was attended by my extended family (uncles, aunts, and cousins), have invited my fiancé and I over for special occasions, and the two sisters from that family (sister’s sister-in-laws) were bridesmaids with me for my twin sister’s wedding. 

They have joined us for Thanksgiving, Easter, and Christmas when a large group of family members (40 or so) are invited.  My cousin has invited them for Easter celebrations in the past because he knows my twin sister’s husband wanted to spend time with them on that day too.  They have generally been cordial to me and I generally get along with the family, but I have had some minor issues in the past due to personality differences.

I do not feel very close to them (compared to the two sets of family friends that are invited) and I am leaning towards not inviting them. 

 

ashleyep

If you invite them to your engagement party, they have to be invited to the wedding. That's the only rule. You don't have to invite them if you don't want them there.

Bubbles2014

If you invite them to your engagement party then you have to invite them to your wedding. Do you want them at your wedding?

If you aren't close to them then you certainly don't have to invite them.

libby2483

If they are invited to the engagement party, they need to be invited to the wedding.

Also, I'm not sure if this is the case from your post, but you should never throw your own engagement party.  You should only have one if someone offers to host it for you.

Viczaesar

Kaylee2786 said:

I am inviting 60 people to my engagement party.  They are made up my fiancé’s family (siblings, cousins, etc.) and my family from my mother’s and father’s sides.  We’re also including my close friends and fiancé’s close friends.  I am also including only two sets of family friends that I am close to.  Should I invite my twin sister’s in-laws to my engagement party if my parents are hosting the party at my home (I currently live with my parents)?   Space is an issue but it would be possible to fit them, though it would be tight. 

I’ll describe my twin sister’s in-law's family (brother-in-law's family) first with the following facts:

The family in question is made up of 4 adults (Mother, father, and two sisters – one of which has a baby).  They live 10 minutes away from my parents, have hosted a birthday party for my twin sister and I recently in the past, have hosted my sister’s graduation party that was attended by my extended family (uncles, aunts, and cousins), have invited my fiancé and I over for special occasions, and the two sisters from that family (sister’s sister-in-laws) were bridesmaids with me for my twin sister’s wedding. 

They have joined us for Thanksgiving, Easter, and Christmas when a large group of family members (40 or so) are invited.  My cousin has invited them for Easter celebrations in the past because he knows my twin sister’s husband wanted to spend time with them on that day too.  They have generally been cordial to me and I generally get along with the family, but I have had some minor issues in the past due to personality differences.

I do not feel very close to them (compared to the two sets of family friends that are invited) and I am leaning towards not inviting them. 

 

Are you going to invite them to the wedding?

Kaylee2786

Viczaesar, Yes, I am planning to invite them to the wedding. 

tammym1001

It sounds like it's only 4 or 5 people and your family celebrates events with them fairly frequently so if it were me I would invite them.

ashleyep

I agree, if you're inviting them to the wedding and you spend a lot of time with them around your family, then why not. They'll know a lot of the guests, there's no harm in it.