No flower girl.. Only little boys!

brittanyannmarie1121

The only children in my family are 5 BOYS (my 2 nephews and my 3 second-cousins) who, by the time of my wedding, will be between 1.5 yrs- 5 yrs old. My fiance's family has no children in their family at all and none of my friends or my fiance's friends have children yet. I definitely need to include my two nephews in the wedding. Could they both be ringbearers? I would also love to include my 3 boy cousins, if possible--we're all so close!!! (Their mom's will be in the bridal party). Does anyone have any ideas in which they could be a part of my big day? Do you think it's a good idea to include all 5 of them or would it get messy? I saw a picture of two little boys holding up a banner while walking down the aisle that said, "Here comes the bride." I'm not sure if that's too cheesy but would love any other ideas or suggestions. Thanks!

NYCMercedes

Of course you can have two ring bearers. You have two rings, don't you. The banners are not among my favorite ideas.

AddieCake

brittanyannmarie1121 said:

The only children in my family are 5 BOYS (my 2 nephews and my 3 second-cousins) who, by the time of my wedding, will be between 1.5 yrs- 5 yrs old. My fiance's family has no children in their family at all and none of my friends or my fiance's friends have children yet. I definitely need to include my two nephews in the wedding. Could they both be ringbearers? I would also love to include my 3 boy cousins, if possible--we're all so close!!! (Their mom's will be in the bridal party). Does anyone have any ideas in which they could be a part of my big day? Do you think it's a good idea to include all 5 of them or would it get messy? I saw a picture of two little boys holding up a banner while walking down the aisle that said, "Here comes the bride." I'm not sure if that's too cheesy but would love any other ideas or suggestions. Thanks!

You don't NEED to include them; you WANT to include them. Yes,they can both be ring bearers, but I feel anyone under 3 is too young to be in the wedding party. I think the banners are cheesy. Not everyone needs to be included. You can always just take pictures with them. 

HisGirlFriday13

You may have as many (or as few) ring bearers and/or flower girls as you wish. 

I would ask the mothers of the children what they think the kids are capable of, realistically, by the time your wedding comes. The 18 month old might be happier just being with his dad (since mom will be a BM). The five-year-old might be going through a shy phase.

You could have them be ring bearers, you could have them be sign bearers, you could have them just walk in with your GM as very tiny GM. 

Just find out what they're comfortable with, comfortable doing, capable of doing.

We are having two RBs -- my nephew (28 months by the wedding) and my FI's nephew (8 years by the wedding). His nephew is being shy and wants to walk in with his dad, which is fine. My nephew is probably going to have to be bribed with a toy car to give the ring box to FI because he's at the age where "I give you something, you give me something, right?" 

Jen4948

I'm sorry if this comes across harshly, but...

Why do you "definitely need" to include your two nephews in your wedding?  There is no requirement that anyone be in your wedding other than yourself and your FI.

Before you include any of these kids, and I would not include anyone under 3 as too young because they can't understand what they're being asked to do and won't remember it, find out if they want to do it and be prepared for unexpected meltdowns, refusals to go down the aisle, and other undesirable but normal behavior from kids that age.

That said, I'd lose the banner.  It does look cheesy.  Nobody needs a sign, cute or otherwise, to know that the bride is coming.

doeydo

Junior-groomsmen, sign holders, ring bearers, or you could just have them walk down the aisle with someone.  That said, I have seen a 3 year old ring bearer before at a wedding, crying his eyes out, nervous, apparently grumpy because he had to miss a nap to be there, and uncomfortable in the little tux they had him wear.  Just something to think about.