Inviting New Friends

rideeventing

I recently moved to be with my fiance - who is in the military. Within the past few months I have finally begun making friends. Yay me. Some I have gotten very close with some we are still getting to know each other, but becoming closer. I have already invited 2 of the girls and now am having second thought and am contemplating inviting a few more.

Is this considered rude? Technically they are getting the invites after everyone else - but still before the RSVP deadline. So I suppose you could say 'B list' but the friendship is still new. They have indicated they would like to come.  Where my wedding is will require them to book a hotel.

I don't want to impose or be rude.  

misssunshine17

I think it's fine. They obviously know the friendship is new. I would decide ASAP so you're not too close to the deadline. This isn't a B List since you're not subbing out declines for new invites, but extending the invite to more people. 

Jen4948

This doesn't strike me as B listing either, but I agree with misssunshine17-you'd have to move pretty fast if you're going to invite them.

MuppetOverlord

Make the decision and invite if you want to. I think it would be acceptable to say "I know this is close to the RSVP date, but we just met and I would really enjoy you at our wedding!"

krizzo17

I'd do it only on the condition it won't be too much of a hassle for them (out of town, need to find a sitter for their kids, etc). I had relocated right before my wedding, and ended up not inviting my new friends because I didn't want them to feel obligated to travel 2 hours to our wedding. Turns out I'm closer to them than to most of the friends I did invite at the time, but they completely understood the lack of invitation and it's never really come up.

If you don't think it would inconvenience them, though, I'd go with what @MuppetOverlord said - we just got an invitation like this and were thrilled to get the invite, no matter how late!

phira

I agree that this isn't the same thing as B-listing.

When you B-list, you are essentially telling existing friends/family: "I thought about inviting you originally, but you weren't important enough to make the original guest list."

When you invite new friends, you are saying, "I care a lot about this new friendship and would love it if you could attend our wedding."

ElcaB

I think it's perfectly fine.