wedding program etiquette

23applesauce9

my son is about to be married.  His fiance's parents are deceased since her early childhood, and she was raised by an aunt; her cousin will be giving her away.  On the wedding program, how should they be identified.  My husband and I will, of course, be listed as parents of the groom.  What do we put in the space where parents of the bride would be listed, and how do I word their being there for her, in that role?

BMoreBride6

23applesauce9 said:

my son is about to be married.  His fiance's parents are deceased since her early childhood, and she was raised by an aunt; her cousin will be giving her away.  On the wedding program, how should they be identified.  My husband and I will, of course, be listed as parents of the groom.  What do we put in the space where parents of the bride would be listed, and how do I word their being there for her, in that role?

What does your son's FI think?  this is 100% her call.

HisGirlFriday13

My first question is why you're doing this instead of her or your son.

My second question is why don't you ask her/them what she/they would like.

My final thought is that you list your FDIL as "Sally Smith, daughter of the late Bob and Susan Smith."  

If the program lists who is being escorted by whom, you would say, "Sally Smith is being escorted by Joe Jones," and leave it at that -- the inter-familial workings isn't anyone's business. Her side of the guest list will know who everyone is and your side doesn't need to know.