When to send STDs and Invitations based on where guest's live?

EverAfer

On our guest list, we have:

• 20% of our guests in the same state (short drive)
  
• 20%  out of state but within an 1-2 hours drive
• 40% out of state (not driving distance-must fly)  
• 20% out of the country
  

Should we send STDs and Invites to some guests sooner so they can make vacation/travel arrangements?

Or follow the 8 months out for STDs and 3 months out for invites for all guests?

We will be sharing date and town, state of where the wedding is on the STDs, but want to share other info such as ceremony, where to fly in, where to book, etc. earlier for the OOT folks.  Wondering if we should we send invitations out sooner or add our website to the STDS?

Can we ask for folks flying in from another country  to rsvp sooner? (We will be hosting a few families at our house/parents house if they're coming from further away.)

itzMS

Post hotel and travel information on the website. Include the web address on your STD

 

You can send STDs as soon as your guest list and venue are secure. Up to 10 months in advance, if you really want to.

Invites should be sent 6-8 weeks in advance, but you'll want to send at 12 weeks for mail going overseas.

As an aside, I'd suggest not outright volunteering to host guests in your home...unless they ask. Having houseguests around the time of your wedding can be incredibly stressful (several posts here on TK have proven that).

 

EverAfer

Thanks, that all make sense.

@itzMS, we won't have a choice about house guests, it'll be his family-they'll consider this a family reunion and we have extra rooms. We or at least I might get a hotel room some where for a week.

itzMS

simplysrey said:

Thanks, that all make sense. @itzMS, we won't have a choice about house guests, it'll be his family-they'll consider this a family reunion and we have extra rooms. We or at least I might get a hotel room some where for a week.

I love how you have to get a hotel room, but the OOT guests don't and can impose on you on your wedding week.

Super classy of them :-)

 

Maggie0829

simplysrey said:

Thanks, that all make sense. @itzMS, we won't have a choice about house guests, it'll be his family-they'll consider this a family reunion and we have extra rooms. We or at least I might get a hotel room some where for a week.

Um, yes you do.  You and your FI use the word "no".  It is a very effective word.  Just because you have extra room doesn't mean that it is okay for people to take advantage of that.

EverAfer

You're right, we do have a choice.

I just didn't even see it that way.

My in-laws live very close to us-enough to borrow sugar and milk-, so the families coming in will want to spend alot of time at in-laws' house which will probably spill to our house.  It's just easier for me to be away somewhere so that I can choose when I want to visit with them instead of having them visit with the parents and spill over to our house. 

At least that's my plan..we'll see.