Before I make it sound like I am a horrible daughter. Here is the back story, my mother walked out on my brother and I when I was in my teens, since then we have received little support from her either monetary or other. My brother has wanted nothing to do with her and probably has not seen her in 10 years. I have kept a realtionship with her but by no means a mother/daughter relationship more like that co-worker you were friends with once and now maybe see once every couple years relationship. My father's family is extremely important to me and when she left they were all very hurt. I do want to invite my family on my mother's side to the wedding however not her because I do not want those people who I care about the most being upset seeing her.
My father has also been dating a wonderful woman for the past 10 years who I have become close to and for all intents and purposes she is my mother.
So I have two questions how do I tell her that she is not invited and is not to show up when I am inviting the rest of the family. My wedding isn't until June 2015 I would like to address the situation sooner than later however my fiance says to wait....
Also how do I include Karen (dad's GF) in the program my fiance and I have already made the decision my mother will not be mentioned. Her and my father are not married so I do not like the step-mother title, but my fiance does not like Honorary Mother or the Bride or just Mother of the Bride either.