Whos pays for Spouses and Childrens Accomodations?

rls32210

I am an older, first time bride.  Some members of our wedding party have spouses and children.  I was planning to rent a beach house for all the wedding party members.  Do I pay to rent hotel accommodations for the spouses and the children of our bridesmaids and groomsmen?

OliveOilsMom

rls32210 said:

I am an older, first time bride.  Some members of our wedding party have spouses and children.  I was planning to rent a beach house for all the wedding party members.  Do I pay to rent hotel accommodations for the spouses and the children of our bridesmaids and groomsmen?

Your WP should be allowed to stay together.  Especially with their own families.  If they cannot all stay together in the beach house.  (And you should pay for the beach house in its entirety if you want your WP to stay there.)  If you don't want your entire WP and their families staying with you, then I suggest that you get accommodations for just you and FI and then let your WP fend for themselves.  Besides, will you really want a full house on your wedding night?

HisGirlFriday13

OliveOilsMom said:

rls32210 said:

I am an older, first time bride.  Some members of our wedding party have spouses and children.  I was planning to rent a beach house for all the wedding party members.  Do I pay to rent hotel accommodations for the spouses and the children of our bridesmaids and groomsmen?

Your WP should be allowed to stay together.  Especially with their own families.  If they cannot all stay together in the beach house.  (And you should pay for the beach house in its entirety if you want your WP to stay there.)  If you don't want your entire WP and their families staying with you, then I suggest that you get accommodations for just you and FI and then let your WP fend for themselves.  Besides, will you really want a full house on your wedding night?

This. Times 1,000. Either rent out a whole beach house and let everyone stay there -- spouses and children included! -- or let them figure out their own accommodations. 

manateehugger

There's no way I would stay in a seperate from my spouse and children. I agree with PP's. you either pay for the whole rental or allow them to make their own accommodations.

You can also say "Hey I thought this beach house would be fun to stay at. You're welcome to join us if you'd like!" If you give them an option, I don't think you're required to pay.

Dreamergirl8812

Ditto PPs. We're renting out a bed and breakfast. We are paying for the whole thing for 2 nights (if someone shoves money in our faces we will graciously accept). There are only 8 rooms so figuring out the rooming situation was probably the hardest part of wedding planning.

ETA: SOs are invited to stay with us.

And I should also say that the B & B is probably the part I'm most excited about (beside the pronouncement of husband and wife).

misssunshine17

Definitely don't split couples and families up. I would just say you're willing to defray their cost by X dollars.