Dear Prudence,
A few days ago a friend sent me the link to a porn video that stars the
(recently) ex-girlfriend of a mutual good friend. The video is clearly
shot in private, and although it shows her face it doesn't have her name
on it. This girl behaved really badly and completely shattered my
friend's heart, and while I don't want to believe he would put something
like this online, he is so hurt that it's not outside the realm of
possibility. She would lose her job and her career if this video was
found, and she comes from a very conservative family. My questions: What
are my obligations here? Do I ask my friend about it? Contact the ex?
Part of me wished I could forget that I saw it at all.