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Trying not to hurt feelings...

Hello...  We're getting married June 7th, 2014 and aready have about 30 people flying in from out of state but only have room for about 1/2 of them to stay with Family.  How do I tell the others that they will need to find accomodations without hurting feelings? Thank you in advance!

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    What Banana said.  It's up to your guests to find their own accommodations.  So if some are super organized and have already made arrangements to stay with family the others will just have to book hotel rooms.  

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    Hello...  We're getting married June 7th, 2014 and aready have about 30 people flying in from out of state but only have room for about 1/2 of them to stay with Family.  How do I tell the others that they will need to find accomodations without hurting feelings? Thank you in advance!

    I had the exact same problem. We just invited people to stay with us (in circles) and didn't invite the others. It took a few months of finagling but it worked out.



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    I would never assume I could stay with family when traveling. If someone offered, great, but I would always assume I needed to find my own accommodations. I would probably decline the offer anyway b/c I hate staying with people.
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    Agreed- reserve a block of rooms at 1 or 2 hotels (ideally two, at different price points) for OOT guests. Have family share this info "Oh that's great you and Aunt Sally will be coming! Jane and Joe reserved a block of hotel rooms at X". Or, this info can also be put on a wedding website.

    I would hope guests wouldn't assume they can stay with someone... I also hope guests haven't been told that an accommodation will be found for them, unless someone in your family is fully offering it. 
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    Hello...  We're getting married June 7th, 2014 and aready have about 30 people flying in from out of state but only have room for about 1/2 of them to stay with Family.  How do I tell the others that they will need to find accomodations without hurting feelings? Thank you in advance!

    block rooms at hotels for them to buy. They usually give discounts for block rooms.
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    Reserve a hotel block where they can book rooms.
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    Your wedding is not an obligation. If they can't afford to get a hotel room, they don't have to come to the wedding. They're not bad people if they can't make it, but you're not responsible for finding free accommodations for every guest.
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    pp's already gave great advise, I just wanted to say hooray for June 7th!  I was married June 7th, 2013--good date choice :)
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