My aunt (and her husband and children) unfortunately wont be able to make it to our wedding due to finances. However, I would like to thank her after the wedding because she is lending me her veil to wear as my something borrowed. Should I send her a thank you note? Would it be rude or inappropriate to say "sorry you couldn't make it, but thank you..."? Or should I just thank her by phone or something? I wouldn't want the note to sound like I was trying to remind her that she wasn't there or anything. Maybe I should treat the note like it was for a gift from someone who didn't attend? Advice?