I just want to start by asking is it wrong to not have a MOH? According to my FMIL and some other family members it is. I am getting married in August so i recently asked my four closest friends to be my BM's. One of them I have been friends with since grade school and we are still close even though she lives in HI!!!! Another maid is my FSIL and friend since I met my then boy friend (who lives in NY and is moving to NH). My other two friends both live near me in PA. All I am asking of my BM's is to show up
on time and in a dress within the parameters set up. (length/color/fabric)
Yesterday my FMIL asked me which one of the girls is going to be the MOH. I told her that I couldn't put one friend above the other and that I love them all equally. She seemed confused and then proceeded to ask, well how can you not have a MOH? I told her I didn't want any one girl to be above the others. Besides I had already asked them to be Birdesmaids...wouldn't it be strange then come back to one and ask her to be a Maid of Honor instead? At this she dropped it and we went on to a different topic, but this got me thinking...is it a crime not to have a Maid of Honor?