Years ago, my FI's cousin hosted a party on New Years Eve, at her house. She becomes belligerent when she drinks excessively. As the night wore on, she accused me of making a pass at her husband! She got in my face and called me a wh*re. Okay, I hate to state the obvious, but I was there with MY boyfriend.... her cousin! Why would I try to pick up any man, let alone someone in my FI's family? It was so utterly absurd. She became so violent, her husband had to stop her from coming after me. She clawed his face so bad, it look like he got into a car accident. My FI is adamant, that she be invited to our wedding. Fine. I will just try to avoid her and hope she doesn't make a scene. There will be a lot of people there so that should be easier to do. The bridal shower is being hosted by my step-mother and sister, and I really don't want this woman in my family's house. She is my FI's guest... NOT MINE. It was about 6 years ago since this happened. She never talks to me at social functions, and has never apologized for her behavior. She has gone to two other weddings after she went nuts on me and made a scene at both, and another one she had to be taken away by an ambulance for a meltdown. Her mom is the sweetest person. Can I invite his aunt without inviting her daughter? How would I answer questions if people asked?