So, I'm just here to complain a little bit. My FSIL is completely taking over my bachelorette party. My sister (the MOH) and my bridesmaids have done a fantastic job of planning exactly the type of bachelorette party I want - we will be tailgaiting before a baseball game, attending the game, and then likely going out for a few drinks after the game at bars near the stadium. Maybe not everyone's cup of tea, but PERFECT for me.
My FSIL has basically hi-jacked the FB thread about it, insisting on pen!s EVERYTHING (we're talking $200+ in accessories, which she wants some of my other friends to purchase), giving me tons of trashy underwear, forcing me to go on "missions" (like finding a guy to serenade me, someone to spank me, someone with my FI's name to kiss me), etc. NONE of this sounds even remotely appealing to me.
I am not included in the thread on FB, but have now had 4 different friends come to me, expressing their concern that this is turning into the exact opposite of what I want. All of them have expressed that in the thread, only to have FSIL ignore it and push forward, insisting that I'll really like it, "once I get drunk enough."
The problem with FSIL is she has a severe lack of boundaries, and has steamrolled people on other issues before. One of my BMs sent a message to the whole group, stating that she has spoken with me, and wanted to reiterate my desire to keep the phallic accessories to a minimum, to which FSIL responded with, "Well, she says that when she's sober, who knows what she'll say when she's drunk!" She is also pushing for a strip club, which is the exact opposite of what I want.
She then texted me almost exactly what she had sent the group, stating that at her bachelorette, she was really shy and didn't want to do any of these things, but when she got drunk enough, she really enjoyed them, and she didn't want me to make the same mistake that she made. For me, it's not about being "afraid" of male attention - I'd just rather the night focus on getting to spend time with friends I rarely see (I'm flying back home for this) and celebrating, than on awkward games and penises, and getting black out drunk.
FSIL's marriage is also on the rocks, which I think is contributing to her desire to have a "wild night out," where as I'm much more low-key. Between my friends, my sister and myself, I'm sure we have enough votes in our camp to ultimately overrule her, but she's annoying the ever-living crap out of me and I just needed to vent somewhere. I don't know how to make it any more clear that I have no interest in this than to flat out tell her (which I've already done), have others tell her (which they've already done), or ignore her (which I'm doing now). Anyone got any other tips?