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Bridal Shower Blunders

Nriggs1Nriggs1
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I want start off by saying I was never really interested in having a bridal shower but my mother and  FMIL
kept insisting that I have one. My other asked me to put together a small list [key word SMALL] of people to come to the bridal shower because she was hosting it at her house. I gave her the list last month.. included a few people on each side of the family, couple friends & co -workers. Came out to about 20 people. We are about 2 weeks away from this shin-dig & people from my FI side of the family are getting pissy because I didn't invite everyone who is coming to the wedding. This is my first time getting married so I didn't know it was customary to invite every female that is coming to the wedding to your bridal shower. I've been to weddings where I was not invited to the bridal shower or bachelorette party and I was not offended. I'm just really confused as to what to do now...I don't want my future in laws to hate me or continue to argue with my FI about this whole thing
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  • erolliserollis member
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    edited December 2011
    So your mother ("My other asked me to...") is hosting the shower? I am going to assume she is. Now you did what they both wanted (that is have a shower) and your mother is hosting (so she gets to decide the number of people invited) many future family is upset b/c they were not invited.

    Let them know you wish they all could be in attendance but at the location their is only so much room. Talk to your FMIL and let her know the situation (since she did not host it) and how you feel. You and your mother did nothing wrong. In your family small showers are the norm so you did not know how upset people would be. Also anyone who still wants to give you a shower gift can or they can even host another one for you (if they feel so inclined).

    In some circles it is very common to invite every single female to the bridal shower that is invited to the weddings. I know many large Italian and Spanish (from Spain) families do this. They are huge events. It sounds like your future in-laws are in one of these invite everyone circles.

    Don't stress to much. Most people have rather intimate bridal showers or none at all.
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  • Nriggs1Nriggs1
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    edited December 2011
    thanks... makes me feel so much better!!!
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  • FutureMrsRoss2010FutureMrsRoss2010 member
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    edited December 2011
    I have never heard of inviting all females invited to the wedding, so don't feel bad for being clueless about that "tradition"!  And I agree with pp, if she wants you to have one and invite that many people, she should offer to host it (or at least pay for it). 
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  • jmkesjmkes
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    edited December 2011
    Good grief who would want that many women in one place at one time?  I've been to plenty of weddings where I wasn't invited to the shower.  You should invite people you are close to and women from his family you feel are important and should be included.
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  • ccrabtree02ccrabtree02 member
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    edited December 2011
    I have seen it on the other end.  A girl at work invited people to her bridal shower that she did not invite to the wedding.  To me this was tacky.  But then when I had my shower I only invited the ladies who I was inviting to the wedding and I was seen as being cliquish.  A bridal shower is intimate.  I think you not inviting everyone kind of shows that you are not being gift grabby.  I would maybe extend the invitation to those who would like to go and just tell them that you did not realize that they would like to attend. 
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