So my bridesmaids have been talking about throwing me a bachelorette party. Before I go any further, I have to say that I really appreciate their enthusiasm and the fact that they want to do it. And I’m being totally honest when I say that I don’t expect or really want a bachelorette party. Also, technically I wasn’t supposed to know but my MOH (my sister) came to me b/c she thought a lot of their ideas didn’t sound like “me”.
That said, a couple of them have it in their heads that I NEED a wild, crazy bachelorette party. They want me to go to NYC (most of my college friends are on the east coast) for a weekend of non-stop drinking, strip clubs, dance clubs and expensive dinners. First of all, it sounds terribly expensive and I would in no way feel comfortable with anyone funding any or all of it for me (which is what they’re suggesting they’ll do). Second, it’s truly not my style. Third, I don’t like that they’re insisting that I NEED a crazy party when I’ve expressed that’s really not what I want. One of them actually said I need a wild bach. Party b/c I’ve always been “married” (meaning in a relationship) so I need to have fun. It’s kind of like “oh thanks, I had no idea that I never had any fun before!” (didn’t say that to her)
The other part of this that I don’t like is that my MOH and 2 other BM’s could definitely not go for financial reasons. One is graduating college this spring, one is a mom with 2 kids, and one will be in her final year of school. SO . . the other 2 BM’s are NOW talking about having 2 bachelorette parties . . one locally where I live and one in NYC with our college friends. They don’t get it.
How do I tell them to tone it down and that I really, really don’t want a raging bachelorette party, let alone a raging party in NYC? It’s not that I don’t drink, I’ve just “grown out of” getting drunk every weekend. My ideal bachelorette party would be something pretty low-key and not nearly as expensive. I’m frustrated that the BM’s are divided over this issue and I’m ticked that my friends won’t listen and respect the fact that I don’t want a crazy party. I love their enthusiasm, but am I being demanding by saying I DON’T want to have a wild, expensive party? Who’s being disrespectful in this situation?