Rehearsal Dinner

owengirl996 · April 2012

Who all are you inviting?

I know you obviously invite everyone who is at the rehearsal, and I'm planning to invite everyone's spouses as well (and parents of kids). Do I invite the wedding planner? She's obviously going to be at the rehearsal, so I'm thinking yes, but what do you think? I mean, I already paid her... lol

Are you going to invite any out of town guests that make the trip for your wedding, assuming they are there the night before, even if they won't be at the rehearsal? I'm not sure how many OOT guests we will have, but I was considering it.

Our dinner will be fairly informal at a local Mexican restaurant, but we are still paying for it ourselves, so I don't want TOO many people...

bridetobe71412 · April 2012

FILs are paying for it and they limited it to people who need to be at the rehearsal, their plus-ones, and immediate family only. It'll be 48 people total. It's at a very fancy restaurant in Philly, and I'm ecstatic.

If we invited all OOT guests, that would be the entire wedding guest list. Only my mother and two brothers live in Philly. I am contemplating doing some kind of hospitality suite since everyone needs to come into town on Friday in order to check into their hotels and then make the ceremony (hotel check in is 3pm; ceremony starts at 3pm).

Edited to add specifics: 8 BMs, 8 GMs, all of their plus-ones, my mom, my grandmother, fiance's parents, fiance's grandfather, priest, wedding planner, 3 readers and their plus-ones, and my godparents who are the gift bearers. We don't have RB/FG, thank goodness.

butterflyjumper1 · April 2012

ours is pretty formal - it is in a gorgeous private room at the Italian restaurant that is inside our hotel/venue. Our guest list is right at 60. we are inviting:

bridal party + guests
us
our parents
my aunts and uncles and their families
fiance's aunts and uncles and their families
my grandmother
my minister who is our officiant + his wife
(our ushers, readers, program attendants, etc. are all cousins who will already be at the rehearsal dinner anyway. otherwise, we would invite them too).

I think if I were you, I would invite your wedding planner.

We wanted it to be small, but wanted to invite the people who are most important to us, which is exactly what we are doing.

ceglare4 · April 2012

Ours will be relatively informal too. We rented a space at one of my favorite restaurants. As it stands right now, I'm inviting:

-BM, GM, and their dates.
-I didn't just say WP above because right now I'm not planning on inviting the RB and FG, because then we'd have to invite their parents and siblings, and there are about 10 extra people there. I'm still deciding on that.
-All our parents.
-I think I'm inviting grandparents too.

We're trying to keep it relatively small. We aren't inviting any OOT guests unless they are on the list above.

lvissers · April 2012

Our rehearsal dinner isn't booked yet, but hoping my FIL's plan this pretty soon. I trust them as they usually have good taste, but am starting to get nervous since they havent even gone out looking at venues yet. We won't know what time our rehearsal is until 30 days prior to the wedding since there may be another wedding on Friday which sucks. Our guest list is close to 150 and we are planning on being able to invite OOT guests and birdal party and their significant others, and our families, so probably clsoe to 50 people.

Amanda1443994 · April 2012

My FIL are handling the rehearsal dinner and it's going to be very formal in a private dining area of a great French restaurant--soo excited! My FIL are from out of state, and most of their relatives are from Canada. So we will be having:

-BM + GM and their dates
-All parents

-All grandparents

-All other bridal party members (FG)

-All out of state people that will be there for the day before the wedding
-Readers

-Priest

In total, we'll probably have close to 50 people.

littlemoments324 · April 2012

We're not having one anymore...The main reason is because we want to spend the night before hanging out with our friends separately...We haven't seen them in forever, and we just wanted to have our separate girls night and guys night...We will have a rehearsal and then we'll go on our separate ways

If we were going to have one, I would have really liked to have a BBQ at my grandparent's house because they have a huge yard & I just love it there! we'd have like 60ppl there...hence as to why we're cutting back!

k8888 · April 2012

FILs are also hosting ours, so we're keeping it as small and simple as possible.

If everyone invited comes, we'll have 29, not including us.

Bridal party plus their guests (2 of the couples are both a BM and GM so that's a bonus)
RBs - parents are BM and GM
2 readers plus their dates
Gift bearers (Catholic Mass.... it's a married couple)
Both sets of parents

Skyjewell23 · April 2012

We are inviting

My mom and dad and his mom and dad

his grandparents

my two sisters

my cousin

my best friend and her husband (my Matron of honor and usher)

his brother, his wife, and their 2 kids (flower girl and ring bearer)

his 2 grooms men and their 2 wives

and I think that's it! Not too bad since we are having it at an upscale restaurant.

dawnleanna1 · April 2012

I had no idea it was common to invite so many people. Ours will just be our wedding party and their dates, RB and his parents FI's brother, our parents and our wedding planner. We are having a bunch of kids there so it will not be anything real fancy.

LADY324 · April 2012

My FIL's are hosting our rehearsal dinner it is at an Italian restaurant. We just invited our bridal party with dates. Then it will just be our parents and FI's grandma since she lives with his parents. I think we have about 35 people on the list.

arunkumar · April 2012

We are inviting everyone in the wedding party and their significant others and children and all of my relatives, all of which are coming from either other states or another country. I think it added up to about 45 people invited. I'm not inviting children to the wedding so by inviting them to the rehearsal dinner, it's one less day the parents have to find a babysitter for.

If you couldn't invite significant others because of a tight budget, I would completely understand. But if you have the money, you should invite them and their children too.

dramaqueen91087 · April 2012

My Uncle is hosting. I'm not sure where it will be yet, still working on that. Originally we were going to invite OOT guests but since that like half our list my uncle can't afford it. We are inviting:
Aunt & Uncle (hosting)
1 Aunt on my moms side
2 Aunts and Uncles on my dads side
3 first cousins with their SOs
2 other first cousins
FG&RB
Their parents (who are my cousin and her H)
My parents
Me & FI
FI's parents
FI's grandparents
FI's younger brothers (Usher and GM)
Best Man
1 other GM
BM's (one of whom is my sister) with one SO (only one has an SO)

I think thats it. FMIL didn't want to invite anyone else from FI's family, I asked about his other sibling and Aunts and Uncles but she said no. Also I know that some of the Aunts/Uncles/Cousins from my dads side won't be there, but we are still inviting them.

owengirl996 · April 2012

Thanks for the responses! So basically, sounds like it's all over the place lol I'm thinking we will just stick to the bridal party and spouses/children, plus our parents...and wedding planner-so basically everyone at the rehearsal. I am going to invite our officiant since she is a family friend. I'm also going to invite her husband and her daughter, since her daughter is one of my good friends (although, not a BM), and she is helping me with addressing our invites

mekiakoo · April 2012

We will have about 60 people and it will include the wedding party & their dates, immediate families, and people who are included in the wedding (like readers, singers, etc).

We have a huge family and almost all of our guests are from out of town, we'd not be able to accommodate everybody.

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