May 2012 Weddings

FI has lost it....(Long what is he thinking rant)

So Yesterday it was Tasha's man today apparently its mine. FI and I are long distance we met years ago through a mutual friend and blah blah blah things changed last summer. He lives near Toronto I live in Denver, we make it out to see each other every other month or so. I'm headed up to Canada end of the month to sign our contract for our venue and spend some time with him yay

I've met his parents a few times before he and I became an item so we were talking this morning the conversation looked like this:

Ryan: Want to see my mom and dad when you come visit?
Chandra: Sure sounds good I havent seen them in a while
Ryan: Right
Chandra: Maybe you might want to invite your mom along with us on Friday so she can see the place we're getting married
Ryan: Oh Ummm.....hmm I'm pretty sure she's working
Chandra: Its 3 weeks away you might want to offer
Ryan: uhhhmmm yeah, well...hmmm
Chandra: Why are you fidgeting?
Ryan: Oh well I might want to tell my mom we're more then friends then
Chandra: Ya think?!?
Ryan: Well I havent told her, you know how she is.
Chandra: No I don't know how she is. She doesnt even know I'm a girlfriend?!?
Ryan: Ummm no not exactly
Chandra: Honey....when were you going to tell her the day before the wedding and hope she's free?
Ryan: Well I told my dad he knows.
Chandra; Great! thats wonderful. Back to mom
Ryan: Right well I was thinking when you and the kids come out for christmas that might be a good time to tell her
Chandra: Christmas? Are you off your nut?
Ryan: She'll be happy
Chandra: I have a meeting to get to but we are soooooo revisiting this conversation.

2 hours later I get a text: So I sent my mom a text let her know that we're talking about marriage.

He texted his mom an engagment announcement?!? I want to shake him so badly. The poor  woman I've gone from friend to fiance in 20 minutes, she has no idea whats going on and she got it all via text?!?
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  • lanejanelanejane member
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    edited April 2011
    Wow he is crazy... you should reach through the phone and choke him. like Bart and Homer
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  • OMG!!!!!! He didnt tell his mom until now?!?!?! You handled that pretty well I must say.....
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  • WOW that is ridiculous.  I'm pretty sure if he waited to tell her until Christmas, she'd be pretty upset...especially bc your planning will be in full swing by then!  Any specific reason why he can tell his dad, but not his mom?  We've had the texting talk before, that was a really impersonal way to tell her.  He could have at least called!  I'm sorry you have to deal w/ that right now, I hope things work out okay. :/
  • Ugh men! I swear they just don't think sometimes!
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    [QUOTE]Wow he is crazy... you should reach through the phone and choke him. like Bart and Homer
    Posted by lanejane[/QUOTE]

    <p style="margin:0in 0in 0pt;" class="MsoNormal"><strong><span style="font-family:Arial;color:#1f1f1f;font-size:8.5pt;">THIS!! </span></strong><strong><span style="font-family:Arial;color:#1f1f1f;font-size:8.5pt;">
    </span></strong><span style="font-family:Arial;color:#1f1f1f;font-size:8.5pt;">I applaud your control because I would not have been half as calm if FI told me something that! </span></p>
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  • S0095042S0095042 member
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    edited April 2011
    Wow! Why exactly had he been putting it off? Is she that intimidating? I mean my FMIL can be intimidating but not so much so that we wouldn't tell her...

    I would KILL Justin if he did this!!! I can only imagine what "mom" is thinking...maybe wait until she calls him, find out how the situation is...if decent, maybe you should call her in a few days???
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  • Lissa1213Lissa1213 member
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    Tsk Tsk.... Seriously!! That is completely ridiculous.  I like the frying pan idea from yesterday for this one.  Me personally I would be humilated. 

    EDIT:  Is his mom Hilter or something?  I mean why would he be afraid to tell her?

     

  • I would be so mad! Your FI should tell her that you had no idea she didn't know about you two dating and becoming engaged. 
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  • That's the second FI has lost it rant this week... mine being one of them. I think it's going around. Ugh.
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    [QUOTE]That's the second FI has lost it rant this week... mine being one of them. I think it's going around. Ugh.
    Posted by Soon2BSand[/QUOTE]

    "Ladies keep your men locked up so they don't catch this!" lol!
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: FI has lost it....(Long what is he thinking rant) : "Ladies keep your men locked up so they don't catch this!" lol!
    Posted by S0095042[/QUOTE]
    This should do the trick... lol<div>
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  • Lol i'm making sure mine behaves himself! He doesn't need to catch whatever is going around!


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  • Yeah I'm pretty much ready to throttle him. I thought for a minute i should just call her and apologize for her son's lunacy. But ya know what he's a big boy and he can take care fo this. I guess he's taking his mom out to dinner tonight to talk it through with her then returning home and kissing my ass. I'll call FMIL tomorrow and chat with her.

    And i really don't get why he doesnt want to tell her things. I know she tries to baby him, he's an only child, and he doesn't tell her things to avoid it. But OMG that is over the top. Ladies take away their facebook, their phones, and if need be their email whatever it takes.



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  • What the heck is going around, FIANCE COOTIES?!! LOL

    I would have been way worse at my reaction than you....but you handled it well...sometimes, ladies we have to remember (something a co-worker told me)

    Women are like spaghetti: things in life seep into the other and we can get it all mixed up  but get it all done..

    Men are like waffles: everything is separate and they have one track minds that can only handle doing one thing at a time...

    NO WONDER WE DO IT ALL! ;)
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    [QUOTE]What the heck is going around, FIANCE COOTIES?!! LOL I would have been way worse at my reaction than you....but you handled it well...sometimes, ladies we have to remember (something a co-worker told me)<strong> Women are like spaghetti: things in life seep into the other and we can get it all mixed up  but get it all done.. Men are like waffles: everything is separate and they have one track minds that can only handle doing one thing at a time</strong>... NO WONDER WE DO IT ALL! ;)
    Posted by klw0022[/QUOTE]

    <div>I love this analogy!</div>
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