Let me start with the back story...I have been engaged since July 2009. I asked one of my lifelong friends to be in my wedding party. I asked her to be in the wedding in October of 2009. She said yes and was very excited. Just recently in April 2010, that same bridesmaid got engaged. I was so excited for her. However, she set her date for 3 weeks before my wedding!! I have had my date set since August 2009 and she knew my date. I don't have any problem with her getting married the same summer as me, but it became a problem when she decided to get married in Mexico (we live in NJ). This is a problem for me because my sister (my maid of honor) and another one of my bridesmaids (her sister) are in her wedding party. So she will be taking 3 out of my 6 bridesmaids to Mexico 3 weeks before my wedding. I'm very frustrated by the whole thing. Was this rude or is it just me? I would never ask her to change her wedding but I was shocked that she would plan things the way she did.