MOH and I planned to get together and finally order the BM dresses today. She was ready to be measured, and I had the measurements for the one BM who said she couldnt find a place near her who sold the designer we wanted. However, MOH showed up at my place and told me that the other BM, who declared our original dress choice to be "not a fall style" and vetoed it, had not once gone to see the dress that we settled on after she picked it out online. Even though I have been sending emails telling BMs when to order their dress by, she never once responded to me and apparently told MOH last week that regardless of the date I stated, she was thinking of going to look at the dress sometime next month. I refrained from going thru the roof, and instead said we would ask the salon what they thought about that timing.
The salon told me I really should order all three together because of dye lots, and that the absolute latest I should wait is mid-May. MOH and the disagreeable BM are going to Hawaii the first two weeks of May, so she will only have a few days when she gets back to go see if this dress even works for her.
WTF do i do? MOH keeps saying that she will talk to her and put pressure on her, but I have been very accomodating. I was open to suggestions after she didn't like the first dress, then she picked this one after seeing it online in December, and STILL has not even tried it on! I gave a date to order it by, and she totally disregarded it. The other thing I am upset about is that she has not ONCE spoken to me about it. She only talks to MOH about it if they are together and MOH asks. I don't even like this dress, but when MOH said that this BM liked this one, I just said "Ok we will go with it." Do I ask her what the deal is? I know the rule of thumb is that if a BM doesnt order by that date, she's out, but now i havent ordered ANYONES dress because MOH is trying to be the diplomatic one and said we should give her more time. I just kinda thought 4 months was enough time to try a dress on.