CN for the background story: The neighbor who lives below me yells a lot. I went one morning to tell him to please be quiet and he spent 30 min telling me some creepy and incoherent things (neighbors plotting against him, being in the matrix, etc). I called EPS a couple hours later but apparently waited too long and they told me to wait until he yells again and then call 911.
Now for the update...
So he hasn't yelled since
. But he did start leaving roses on my door step and on my car. I also ran into him once and he told me "seeing you is like a breath of fresh air... for all the right reasons." Fri and Sat I was out of town and he didn't leave any roses anywhere but on Sun FI walked outside to find a small circle of yellow rose petals with a pile of white powder in the middle. We wanted to go to the police but felt we didn't have evidence because we didn't actually see him put anything anywhere and just "knowing" it's him wouldn't be enough. Then this morning I woke up to this stuck in my car window:
Since he signed his name we though this would be enough, and so FI came home from work and we went to the police station together. Bad idea I guess. The police were basically annoyed with us and told us we still couldn't prove it was him and he didn't do anything illegal (and yes I did tell them the back story). They said the best they could do was if we call 311 (the non emergency number) a cop could come by when he had time for a civil standby which pretty much means he just stands there while we tell the neighbor to stop.
So here is the dilemma: Since the cop can't do anything, I'm afraid that if we use the civil standby our neighbor will be like "why did you call the cops first before coming and talking to me?" and it will piss him off and then we will be in a worse place than we started. AKA with a now angry and not mentally healthy neighbor. I kind of want to tell him to stop on our own first and call the cops if he doesn't.
FI feels that it can't hurt to have backup, especially because we don't know how the neighbor will react when we talk to him, and better to be safe than sorry. What would you guys do?