My Fiance is Mexican...I am American. He was born here and his parents have lived here for over 24 years, they speak English perfectly and seem to have things pretty well figured out. So far the wedding planning is going pretty well. We are trying to incorporate both cultures and have it be as bilingual as possible since a lot of his family and friends haven't lived here as long.
However, I discovered today, as we were going to do our registry in one of our stores, that we're only doing this for my side because his friends and family, which make up 3/4 of the guest list, "are not even going to look at it....because Mexican's don't use registries."
We came home and were talking to his parents about it, and they agreed. His dad said "Oh yea...they're going to get you something they think is unique and there won't be a gift receipt. And they're going to want to give it to you in person, so expect a lot of people coming around before the wedding."
I'm sure all of you understand...that I am torn between "oh I should just be gracious and thankful regardless" and "OMG what a nightmare!" I feel selfish...and I know I will still be thankful for the thought put into it....but what am I going to do with all that stuff?
I love his family and all of his family friends....they're wonderful...and I do speak spanish so we really are very close with them. I'm fine with the cultural differences. In fact, we're teaching our children spanish first before english.
WHAT SHOULD I DO???? Can I tell people to please, for the love of God, use the registry!!? Or is that rude... I don't know what to do. I don't want to end up with a bunch of random stuff that I can't return and have no where to put. Our house we'll be living in is small....but the thing is we both just graduated, so we do actually NEED the stuff on our registries.
Please help me.