Confession Thursday

Johnsonk313 · March 2012

Good morning Ladies,

This is our Confession Thursday thread. Where we can confess anything... whether its a something you thought but didn't want to say out loud, or how you feel about a certain person or something in society.

I'll start, I confess that FMIL drives me crazy sometimes. She is not a super monster-in-law like some of you have, but she is always doing this passive aggressive shite with FI that irks my soul! If I do something she doesn't like or has a problem with instead of coming to me and saying something about it, she will go to FI and bring it up as a joke, and tell him not to say anything to me because it's not worth mentioning or she is not trying to start trouble. But if it is not worth mentioning why mention it at all! And I have been with FI for 7 years it's not like she doesn't know me well enough to say something to me. General she is a very nice lady and most time we get along great, but the thought of dealing with this for the rest of my life drives me batty!

BMcLeodTeam · March 2012

I confess that I feel like I'm pulling my hair our sometimes when it comes to FI's time management!!!! Seriously, I was in the military, I'm NEVER late, and he seems to be late to EVERYTHING lol

josephwedding · March 2012

I confess... I really have zero desire to get to know my FMIL. Her & I have extremely opposite personalities, from what FI has told me about their relationship, and there has been some really awkward moments with her.... I really just have zero interest in getting to know her further. I feel terrible for this, but I just have no urge to develop any type of relationship with FMIL.

kellycatalo · March 2012

I confess (and i have before here, but i'm just restating), that I lied to my FI about the price of my dress. He thinks it was 2300, but really it was 5k! i just knew he would think i was crazy for paying that much for a dress, i thought i was too. but it's perfect, and i know he'll love it the day of.

akbrown19 · March 2012

FBIL (FI's brother and best man) and SIL are having a baby next week and I hate all of the names they are considering! I guess the only good thing is that they aren't stealing any that I really like. But it's so hard to smile and nod and say "Oh, that's so cute! He will be precious."

Still can't wait to meet the little guy though. They'll be great parents. (Confession: She will be, but we'll see how he does...)

entropicbeauty · March 2012

I confess that I can't stop having dress dreams. It's actually sort of driving me crazy because I wasn't 100% certain about the dress and was having a hard time picking one to begin with and now my dreams are dredging up that uncertainty! Some nights I'm in love with the dress, and other nights it's more like everything's going wrong and it revolves around the dress.

mamameech · March 2012

I confess that I'd really like to NOT invite one of my uncles to the wedding and it really pisses me off that I am. He's caused my family so much pain and frustration over the years, especially after my grandfather passed away (he accused my father of stealing from my grandparents and had barged into my sister's house - which used to be my grandparents' house - because he felt that something belonged to him..... long story). My mom said my grandmother would be very hurt if I didn't invite him which is the only reason why he's on the list.

nicknuttnc · March 2012

I confess that I want to kick out one of my bridesmaid because I saw the text about my health and the wedding sent to one of the other bridesmaids... !Quote "Why should we buy this dress because she probably gonna die before the wedding and I won't be able to get my money back"... Ok I really want to confess I want to kick her butt. How dare she say that about me when she just told me she can't wait for the wedding.....

agladhill · March 2012

I confess that I really DON'T want to be having a wedding. I'm not saying I don't want to get married, because I do. But I don't want to spend a small fortune for a party that lasts 3 hours when I have other bills I could be paying off with all that money. Not to mention how irritated I am that my mother and FI's mother are the reasons we are having the wedding, but they won't help me plan a single thing. (They are giving us some money towards it though.)

agladhill · March 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_september-2012-weddings_confession-thursday?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:a464c18c-2e4d-469b-8eae-3865079cb9cfDiscussion:ff59713b-0cb8-4dcd-bf78-8432c3750d75Post:7f1aed7e-af78-4bc2-a283-78da6fb0a4d0">Re: Confession Thursday</a>:
[QUOTE]I confess that I want to kick out one of my bridesmaid because I saw the text about my health and the wedding sent to one of the other bridesmaids... !Quote "Why should we buy this dress because she probably gonna die before the wedding and I won't be able to get my money back"... Ok I really want to confess I want to kick her butt. How dare she say that about me when she just told me she can't wait for the wedding.....
Posted by nicknuttnc[/QUOTE]

Wow!! I say go for it! Screw ettiquette after that one! I can't believe anyone would say such a thing.

meagandal · March 2012

I confess that I really hate that we are getting married in the Catholic church. I HATE the hoops we have to jump through, I hate that I am giving money and supporting things that I am against. I HATE the FMIL wouldn't attend our weddign if we didn't. I really want to be married outdoors and I want my dogs there, and I want it to be later than 2 pm and I want the music I choose. I don't like pretending that we are church goers and I really don't like that it all such hypocrisy- we break all the so called rules for being married Catholic but we will turn a blind eye to the premarital sex, living in sin and not regularly attending church etc BUT secular music in your ceremony and your going to hell. UGH its my biggest issue with the wedding right now.

josephwedding · March 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_september-2012-weddings_confession-thursday?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:a464c18c-2e4d-469b-8eae-3865079cb9cfDiscussion:ff59713b-0cb8-4dcd-bf78-8432c3750d75Post:7f1aed7e-af78-4bc2-a283-78da6fb0a4d0">Re: Confession Thursday</a>:
[QUOTE]I confess that I want to kick out one of my bridesmaid because I saw the text about my health and the wedding sent to one of the other bridesmaids... !Quote "Why should we buy this dress because she probably gonna die before the wedding and I won't be able to get my money back"... Ok I really want to confess I want to kick her butt. How dare she say that about me when she just told me she can't wait for the wedding.....
Posted by nicknuttnc[/QUOTE]

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</div><div>First off, *HUGS* I don't know your health condition, but I'm so sorry for whatever you're going through. </div><div>
</div><div>Second, how dare she say anything like that, about anyone! I'd call her out on that big time. I'm super pissed at her for you!! </div>

romamor4 · March 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_september-2012-weddings_confession-thursday?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:a464c18c-2e4d-469b-8eae-3865079cb9cfDiscussion:ff59713b-0cb8-4dcd-bf78-8432c3750d75Post:d9e0871e-c87b-43ac-b527-89d518284159">Re: Confession Thursday</a>:
[QUOTE]I confess that I really hate that we are getting married in the Catholic church. I HATE the hoops we have to jump through, I hate that I am giving money and supporting things that I am against. I HATE the FMIL wouldn't attend our weddign if we didn't. I really want to be married outdoors and I want my dogs there, and I want it to be later than 2 pm and I want the music I choose. I don't like pretending that we are church goers and I really don't like that it all such hypocrisy- we break all the so called rules for being married Catholic but we will turn a blind eye to the premarital sex, living in sin and not regularly attending church etc BUT secular music in your ceremony and your going to hell. UGH its my biggest issue with the wedding right now.
Posted by meagandal[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>I DO NOT blame you!!! You shouldn't cater to your FMILs rude demands. That's incredibly passive aggressive of her. How does FI feel about the whole thing?

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romamor4 · March 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_september-2012-weddings_confession-thursday?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:a464c18c-2e4d-469b-8eae-3865079cb9cfDiscussion:ff59713b-0cb8-4dcd-bf78-8432c3750d75Post:7f1aed7e-af78-4bc2-a283-78da6fb0a4d0">Re: Confession Thursday</a>:
[QUOTE]I confess that I want to kick out one of my bridesmaid because I saw the text about my health and the wedding sent to one of the other bridesmaids... !Quote "Why should we buy this dress because she probably gonna die before the wedding and I won't be able to get my money back"... Ok I really want to confess I want to kick her butt. How dare she say that about me when she just told me she can't wait for the wedding.....
Posted by nicknuttnc[/QUOTE]<div>
</div><div>WOW, just WOW. I say do it too. You certainly have the reason to. That is a terrible friend...someone I wouldn't want there anyways.

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romamor4 · March 2012

I confess that It is driving me crazy that FI still hasn't gotten a job. He's been unemployed for three years now and keeps chasing these crazy dreams of running his own business, making an invention that will make him loads of money, holding on to something that is part-time and thus not getting full-time work because he thinks it's a good reason. I am FED UP with it. I am trying to be as supportive as possible though. I want to encourage him to follow his dreams but I wish he would just wake up and go out there and just get any f-ing job for now. I don't care that he has his masters degree and can't find anything that pays him what he was paid years ago. NOONE CAN!!! I'm so tired of it and wish he would just get with the program...

lbarr088 · March 2012

I confess I wish I had half of all of your ambition. I see you all sweating the wedding details now and honestly I couldn't care less about the details of my wedding. It makes me think something is wrong with me. I'm sure it will get to the point where I HAVE to care but I just can't make myself care yet. I'm strange.

meagandal · March 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_september-2012-weddings_confession-thursday?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:a464c18c-2e4d-469b-8eae-3865079cb9cfDiscussion:ff59713b-0cb8-4dcd-bf78-8432c3750d75Post:e587fee1-c9de-4ff2-bc15-61da2c7265e9">Re: Confession Thursday</a>:
[QUOTE]I confess I wish I had half of all of your ambition. I see you all sweating the wedding details now and honestly I couldn't care less about the details of my wedding. It makes me think something is wrong with me. I'm sure it will get to the point where I HAVE to care but I just can't make myself care yet. I'm strange.
Posted by lbarr088[/QUOTE]

I have a little of this too, I find I go in waves, and I like to think about it all in a theorectical way, I have a great vision and but I think its all just going to happen, then I'll have a good week and do a bunch of stuff and I stat to see the visoin become reality.

Sarah&Eric2012 · March 2012

I confess that I really don't want to go to dinner with my mom tonight. She hasn't spoken to me in over a month now and I know that dinner is just going to turn into a "Bash the FI and FILs" session. And I'm going to want to reach across the table to slap her for being so rude and selfish to think that this is just my wedding and not FI's wedding too. I miss talking to her about wedding stuff but I don't want to hear her talk badly about people she doesn't even know and refuses to get to know.

Sarah&Eric2012 · March 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_september-2012-weddings_confession-thursday?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:a464c18c-2e4d-469b-8eae-3865079cb9cfDiscussion:ff59713b-0cb8-4dcd-bf78-8432c3750d75Post:7f1aed7e-af78-4bc2-a283-78da6fb0a4d0">Re: Confession Thursday</a>:
[QUOTE]I confess that I want to kick out one of my bridesmaid because I saw the text about my health and the wedding sent to one of the other bridesmaids... !Quote "Why should we buy this dress because she probably gonna die before the wedding and I won't be able to get my money back"... Ok I really want to confess I want to kick her butt. How dare she say that about me when she just told me she can't wait for the wedding.....
Posted by nicknuttnc[/QUOTE]

Call her out and kick her butt for being such a terrible friend to say something like that. I agree with everyone else, I wouldn't even want someone like that at my wedding, nevermind in the bridal party. I'm so sorry you are even dealing with something like this with everything else you have going on. {Hug}

meagandal · March 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_september-2012-weddings_confession-thursday?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:a464c18c-2e4d-469b-8eae-3865079cb9cfDiscussion:ff59713b-0cb8-4dcd-bf78-8432c3750d75Post:7f1aed7e-af78-4bc2-a283-78da6fb0a4d0">Re: Confession Thursday</a>:
[QUOTE]I confess that I want to kick out one of my bridesmaid because I saw the text about my health and the wedding sent to one of the other bridesmaids... !Quote "Why should we buy this dress because she probably gonna die before the wedding and I won't be able to get my money back"... Ok I really want to confess I want to kick her butt. How dare she say that about me when she just told me she can't wait for the wedding.....
Posted by nicknuttnc[/QUOTE]

That is unbeleivable she would be out of my life, let alone wedding! I just read your get to know you pictures post too and I had no idea you'd been through that you are an inspiration and do not deserve that kind of dismissive and negative treatment, especially behind your back! Good Luck!!

josephwedding · March 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_september-2012-weddings_confession-thursday?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:a464c18c-2e4d-469b-8eae-3865079cb9cfDiscussion:ff59713b-0cb8-4dcd-bf78-8432c3750d75Post:e587fee1-c9de-4ff2-bc15-61da2c7265e9">Re: Confession Thursday</a>:
[QUOTE]I confess I wish I had half of all of your ambition. I see you all sweating the wedding details now and honestly I couldn't care less about the details of my wedding. It makes me think something is wrong with me. I'm sure it will get to the point where I HAVE to care but I just can't make myself care yet. I'm strange.
Posted by lbarr088[/QUOTE]

<div>My interest in wedding planning comes & goes. I've sort of looked at it like agladhill has been, all this money being spent on a wedding is HALF of my student loan debt. I could have half the debt I have if we just had a small DW wedding. <img src="http://cdn.cl9.vanillaforums.com/downloaded/ver1.0/content/scripts/tinymce/plugins/emotions/images/smiley-undecided.gif" border="0" alt="Undecided" title="Undecided" /></div>

bridalmomma · March 2012

I confess I really wouldn't care if my DD's FMIL didin't come to the wedding (except it would really hurt FI). She is not nice to my DD, who has made every effert to include her in the process. FI says she would not like any woman he brought home, but it still makes DD feel bad. I know it's not any of my business, but DON'T mess with my kids... it brings out the SUPER BITCH in me!!

jezpez717 · March 2012

I confess me and the FI havent done it in over 2 weeks and its really starting to put a strain on our relationship, but i think all the wedding stress is making me all up in my brain and i as soon as things look like they are going in that direction I end up saying something that kinda gets us in a fight and we end up not doing it..

Mandy21161803 · March 2012

I confess that I am getting sick of staying home every weekend. I like going out and going places when my FI wants to stay home and watch movies. I like watching movies once in a while but not all the time. Although we are paying for mostly everything for the wedding.. I would like to go somewhere other than resuarnts and the movie theater

volleygurl0306 · March 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_september-2012-weddings_confession-thursday?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:a464c18c-2e4d-469b-8eae-3865079cb9cfDiscussion:ff59713b-0cb8-4dcd-bf78-8432c3750d75Post:7f1aed7e-af78-4bc2-a283-78da6fb0a4d0">Re: Confession Thursday</a>:
[QUOTE]I confess that I want to kick out one of my bridesmaid because I saw the text about my health and the wedding sent to one of the other bridesmaids... !Quote "Why should we buy this dress because she probably gonna die before the wedding and I won't be able to get my money back"... Ok I really want to confess I want to kick her butt. How dare she say that about me when she just told me she can't wait for the wedding.....
Posted by nicknuttnc[/QUOTE]

Please, kick her out of your wedding and your life! This is a disgusting thing to say about anyone, let alone a friend. You need supportive people in your life to help you stay strong and motivated to fight! Ditch the bitch!

volleygurl0306 · March 2012

I confess that one of our groomsmen kinda gets on my nerves. He's actaually a really nice guy when you talk to him, but he's a total pig when it comes to women. He's pretty much FI's only single friend. But, because FI and him are so close, FI is his friend who is around the most to play wingman. He claims he wants a real relationship but if he has to put the slightest bit of effort into going after a girl, he gives up. And, he's soooo superficial. He likes women who are a double 0 with D boobs. Yeah, because that regularly happens naturally. I have a BM who fits that type (Hers are fake though) but because she's vain about her looks, she's vain about a guy's looks too (imagine!). And this GM is not a fit guy so.... It just drives me nuts that he just brings around dumb skanks ALL the time because he wouldn't know what to do with a real woman. I totally trust FI when they go out, and the fact that all the girls are morons is probably more comforting because FI would never want anything to do with that. But, it's also annoying that he'll drive an hour to bounce around to 3 strip clubs in a night with his friend. I'm not even that weird about strip clubs, I just feel like my FI is his pimp. And since he's single it's no big deal to drop $100 on lapdances and booze for him. FI doesn't buy lapdances but he'll buy booze to keep up and I get pretty pissed about the inequal spending we do when we are out with friends (he drops a lot more money). And then, on top of it, who is driving you guys an hour home? And of course, FI and I are long distance now and low and behold who lives in the city he's in but this GM.

agladhill · March 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_september-2012-weddings_confession-thursday?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:a464c18c-2e4d-469b-8eae-3865079cb9cfDiscussion:ff59713b-0cb8-4dcd-bf78-8432c3750d75Post:8ae0255b-5d43-4399-9f0c-1783a0a77032">Re: Confession Thursday</a>:
[QUOTE]I confess I really wouldn't care if my DD's FMIL didin't come to the wedding (except it would really hurt FI). She is not nice to my DD, who has made every effert to include her in the process. FI says she would not like any woman he brought home, but it still makes DD feel bad. I know it's not any of my business, but DON'T mess with my kids... it brings out the SUPER BITCH in me!!
Posted by bridalmomma[/QUOTE]

That's sad. One time my FI was an a**hat to my daughter because he was in a bad mood. I ripped him a new one and told him never to provoke the mama bear again. LOL! You aren't a super bitch, but a protective mama bear!!! I'd feel the same way too!

Bookworm28 · March 2012

I confess that I'm really annoyed at one of my BM's. I only expect her to do two things: order her dress and show up the day of the wedding. That's it. I have been trying to get her to get her measurements for a month and a half now. I have sent out email reminders to all the girls (so as not to target her) as well as called her. She never calls back or emails back. Nothing. I understand life is busy and things take longer than usual, which is why I thought I was being generous with a 5 week window. It's getting to the point where I'm getting so annoyed at her indifference to the idea that someone else is getting married and has deadlines too besides herl; I don't want to be polite anymore. But truth be told, I know I'll act like it's no big deal that she's been blowing me off and messing up the order and potential for the other girls to have time for alterations.

volleygurl0306 · March 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_september-2012-weddings_confession-thursday?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:a464c18c-2e4d-469b-8eae-3865079cb9cfDiscussion:ff59713b-0cb8-4dcd-bf78-8432c3750d75Post:70a337c1-a854-49ff-8e34-4b5e7727082d">Re: Confession Thursday</a>:
[QUOTE]I confess that I'm really annoyed at one of my BM's. I only expect her to do two things: order her dress and show up the day of the wedding. That's it. I have been trying to get her to get her measurements for a month and a half now. I have sent out email reminders to all the girls (so as not to target her) as well as called her. She never calls back or emails back. Nothing. I understand life is busy and things take longer than usual, which is why I thought I was being generous with a 5 week window. It's getting to the point where I'm getting so annoyed at her indifference to the idea that someone else is getting married and has deadlines too besides herl; I don't want to be polite anymore. But truth be told, I know I'll act like it's no big deal that she's been blowing me off and messing up the order and potential for the other girls to have time for alterations.
Posted by Bookworm28[/QUOTE]

This would piss me off too. Don't let it slide though because it isn't fair to inconvenience the other girls (my brother's FI did this with the dress I have to wear for his wedding and so now I'm going to be rushed to do their alterations and I'm PISSED at them). Not worth upsetting people who do care. Email, text and leave her a message all saying the same thing....the exact dress deadline. If she doesn't make it, tell the shop to place the order anyways and call her to tell her you hope she'll still attend the wedding as a guest. There is a time and place to be a dependable friend and a little selfless and when you agree to be a BM this is one of them!

josephwedding · March 2012

TK is eating posts in this thread. It's making it hard to follow when they appear & disappear. So annoying.

CowgirlK39 · March 2012

Nicknutt.... KICK THAT B OUT!!! Anyone who values their money over a friend's life is NOT a friend at all!

I will confess that I got a large profit sharing check, and really wanna spend it on my truck. My truck needs to many modifications to make it useful and less frumpy. But it would be smarter of me to put it towards paying off the wedding crap thats on my credit card. I swear if it wasn't for my overly traditional polish catholic mom, we would have just had a small fun party for a wedding, and instead spent money on my truck and on getting our life going. It upsets me too because I see the things that need work on my truck and just want to have them done and over with so i don't have to worry about it (rust spots, scratches in the bed, removal of some junk).

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