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Mixed Gendered Attendants

StormzStormz
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N and I are going to have mixed gendered sides it appears. He may decide to have his sister and his one female friend. No big deal to me because I may have my best friend and my brother on my side.

My MOH and I are going to look at dresses Weds, we know it is early and do not plan on ordering for awhile but we wanted to see what we could find that are pregnant friendly. All my ladies are soon to be mommies planning to get pregnant right away leaving some of them the possibility of being 3-4 months pregnant for our wedding if they conceive right away so my MOH/BFF wanted to casually look around to pick colors and dress styles.

But we were thinking of having the grooms attendants dresses match the guys and the guy standing on my side match my girls. I am pretty sure we are having chocolate dresses with pink accents on my side and thinking of doing the opposite on N's side.

What is everyone else doing?
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  • coopsbabycoopsbaby member
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    My fi is having only guys, but I'm having my 3 kids (ages 20, 17 and 15). The oldest is my son, and I'm having himdress to match the groomsmen. It's not MUCH of a difference, since we're doing dark gray suits and black dresses. I may have his tie match our bouquet color instead of the other guys' ties, but I' not sure yet. 

    I think what you're doing sounds nice. (And I love chocolate and pink together. So pretty!)
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  • aerinpegadrakaerinpegadrak member
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    You can see the pictures in my bio.  The groomsmen wore white tuxes with silver, and the groomswoman was supposed to wear a silver dress but ended up with something that was more black (but she'd already bought it, so whatever) and I loaned her my grandmother's white fur wrap.  The bridesmaids wore black, and my brother wore a black tux.
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  • msuprincess04msuprincess04 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_mixed-gendered-attendants?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:37Discussion:61471d13-6893-4789-8aca-4f3d98680848Post:b9dbd163-e14b-4a97-ba85-9903c5399dfc">Mixed Gendered Attendants</a>:
    [QUOTE] I am pretty sure we are having chocolate dresses with pink accents on my side and thinking of doing the opposite on N's side. What is everyone else doing?
    Posted by Stormz[/QUOTE]

    So the guys on the grooms side will be in pink tuxes with chocolate vests? :)
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_mixed-gendered-attendants?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:37Discussion:61471d13-6893-4789-8aca-4f3d98680848Post:f9f4f8d2-f37f-42c9-a873-156b3ec02827">Re: Mixed Gendered Attendants</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Mixed Gendered Attendants : So the guys on the grooms side will be in pink tuxes with chocolate vests? :)
    Posted by msuprincess04[/QUOTE]

    <div>Funny as that would be, it sounds like the groom's side is all girls.</div>
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  • Kate61487Kate61487 member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_wedding-party_mixed-gendered-attendants?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:37Discussion:61471d13-6893-4789-8aca-4f3d98680848Post:f9f4f8d2-f37f-42c9-a873-156b3ec02827">Re: Mixed Gendered Attendants</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Mixed Gendered Attendants : So the guys on the grooms side will be in pink tuxes with chocolate vests? :)
    Posted by msuprincess04[/QUOTE]

    Ha, I was thinking this too :-)  she did say she was going to have "the grooms attendants dresses match the guys" meaning there are multiple guys....

    My bridesman matched the boys and H's groomswoman matched the girls.  We figured the fact that they were standing on the associated side was message enough, we didn't need to dress them differently.

    Just make sure you include his girls in the decision.  My MOH hates pink; (she told me she'd wear it for me, but I wouldn't push it on her knowing she hates it); so while a chocolate dress with a pink sash would probably be okay by her a whole pink dress would have been torture.  Also, depending on the shade of pink it might not mesh with their skin, etc.  I guess maybe some people don't let their girls have a say in their colors, but I think they should at least get to have a vote if they're looking at girls on the other side in a dress they'd prefer to be wearing, kwim?

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  • StormzStormz
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    I have 4 girls on my side and 2 guys and he has 4 guys and 2 girls tentatively we have not really officially asked/told anyone outside of my best friend, his best friend, and his sister. The rest assume, but we havent made anything concrete.

    All 4 of the girls on my side are currently pregnant and are going to try to get pregnant again as soon as the doc gives them the ok. So we aren't doing form fitting dresses at all. We are all friends, so everyone was trying to get pregnant at the same time so their kids could grow up together. I am actually the only one not pregnant and losing tons of weight. I do have my heart set on a dress, but I am not sure what I am going to do.

    We are more looking at colors and prices. The plan is to pick a color, length, and fabric and let the girls decide what they are doing. We were going to find some cheaper dresses to help them out a bit. Being new moms is expensive enough, they dont need to go blow $100s on a new dress. But we are leaving it up to them so they can re-wear the dresses to the next formal we attend. They are all at different stages of pregnancy right now from my Matron being 4 months to one of the bridesmaids being 6 months. So they all have a say, but me and my best friend are narrowing some stuff down to let them pick.
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  • HeathenSwanHeathenSwan member
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    We are completely reversed. I have two bridesmen, he has groomswomen (that's it).

    I think either matching dresses, opposite colors (though would he be okay with girls in all pink on his side? Maybe do the brown on his side and pink on yours?), or even having the groomswomen in dresses that match the suits/tuxes (black, brown, grey, etc) with flowers or a sash that match the guys' ties are all fine.
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