This is kind of old but things keep re-occuring so I wanted to share. Since College I have had three very close friends ( like sisters)one of them was my MOH. They were all my very best friend. They were the first three I asked to be in my wedding when we got engaged. When FI and I thought to go DW, I called all three and asked them first would they still be there for me, they all said yes. My MOH is single so I let her know if she needed someone to travel with her to make her expenses less she should do that. I also asked her repeatly was she ok with the cost of 700 dollars for one person for 4 nights, she said yes everytime. Sidenote I started with seven BM's they but I called them first. So time went one and only one out of the three "S" said it may be hard. This was around July 2011. In August the MOH started freaking out about tickets. The travel agent told us that they were High now but in the new year it would be good to get our tickets. A couple of days later the three girls called me on three way and told me that they were dropping out the wedding. They started off, we love you......but we can't make it. They then told me that if I would have had my wedding in my hometown or in the states they would have come. It was like telling me I was not worth their money or there time. I felt like they should have discussed this with me individually not collectively. We are friends as a group but we are also friends individually. The next day two of the girls called me, I was still upset and I let them know it. The MOH did not call. Three weeks went by before she called and when she did it was like as if nothing happen. We talked everyday I could not understand how we could talk everyday and she never say anything about it was to hard for her to come to the wedding. One day she sent me a text and asked me if I was ok. I told her I was not I asked her how could she talk to me every day and never tell me that she could not come. I told her when they called it taught me that the only person that I should be worried about being there is my FI. She called herself offended and we haven't spoke since early December. The BM "S" called me one month after telling me she couldn't be in my wedding and said, and I quote " I need some advice, Me and J ( her then Boyfriend) does not know how we can do this wedding. I told her not to worrty about it I had figured out my bridal party. She says " NO NOT YOU WEDDING MY WEDDING, we want to get married In September 2012 but I don't see how" Early November she ask if I could be in her wedding. The guy proposes he day before Thanksgiving at that time she tells me that she pushed her wedding up to April 22, 2012. And TODAY SHE POSTED ON FB THAT SHE GOT MARRIED TODAY!!! What kind of friend are they? The other one is married and has a younger brother that is getting married in July she is helping him with wedding expenses. ( I got that). Is it me or two out of three was never my friend. Was I wrong for cutting them off?
