The bachelor party

Rachel405 · March 2012

What's everyone's fiance doing for their bachelor party (if they are having one)? Mine just booked a weekend away with friends in Atlantic City to see a band and hang out for the weekend in June. Eeeeeeeeeeeek not a huge fan of this but everyone does them, right?

emarston1 · March 2012

What aren't you a fan of exactly? Bachelor parties in general? Them going to Atlantic City? The fact it's a weekend? Please elaborate.

amymaysa · March 2012

Why are you not a fan of him going with his friends to AC? What do you think they'll do?

I may be in the minority on this, but I really don't care what he/they do. I think they plan on his end is to go to Montreal at some point this summer with a large group. 3 guys in his group (including him) are getting married this year, so I think it's a combined thing.

What they do up there really doesn't matter to me b/c I know he won't 'do' anything except have fun. If they want to go to strip clubs, go ahead. But again, I think I'm in the minority. Things like this don't bother me and he also doesn't care what the girls do for me.

I trust him and our relationship (not saying you don't trust him/your relationship, just a statement on mine)

NcsuPsych · March 2012

How is going to see a band 'evil'? It sounds a lot better than some of the other alternatives.

My DH had a day out with his friends and they played laser skirmish, got dinner and just had a lot of fun. It was something DH needed since his friends are all out of state and he doesn't get to cut loose with them very often. It wasn't evil, it wasn't painful and I'm glad he got to go have fun with the guys

naforeman84 · March 2012

I have got to say i am glad to have found this post. I have been having mixed feelings about my FI bachelor party too. The guys are taking him to vegas for a WEEK. I know they will have fun and I trust him. But somethng just dosent sit well, maybe it is the fact that they keep joking that it is going to be thier version of the Hangover. I know they will have fun and enjoy it. In my own way Im a bit jealous. LOL

Rachel405 · March 2012

I don't have any basis for why I'm not a fan, I guess I just have a negative perception of it from movies and stuff (Hangover anyone?). I totally trust him and everything though. I was just wondering if anyone else didn't love the idea. I'm not controlling (really) and he can do whatever he wants, but I just don't like the idea of it in general. I am under a lot of stress for a lot of other things these days, and I don't think normally I would feel this way, it's just a stressful feelng that I have and I wanted to know if anyone else did too. Sorry-probably being nuts

Rachel405 · March 2012

Also necessary evil was poor word choice. I don't think it's literally "evil" lol. I changed my OP.

Queen Jane · March 2012

H and his friend's went to New Orleans for a weekend. We talked about what I was and was not comfortable with before they went and he had a blast. I canadmit to being a tad jealous bc I didn't have a bachelorette, but I don't hold a grudge. He's told me to take a trip on my own so I may still do that when we have some extra money.

mellimel19 · March 2012

FI will be going to Atlantic City for his bachelor party as well. They'll go out to a fancy dinner, gamble a bit and probably hit up one or several strip clubs. I'm not concerned though- I am fine with him going to a strip club and like yaga, know he would never do anything to hurt our relationship. I'm actually happy for him to have a weekend getaway with his friends, because they are all so busy they don't all get a chance to get together very often.

Rachel405 · March 2012

This is why I love posting on here bc I go from being a stressed out nut to being way less worried and start thinking about actually being happy for him for getting to see his friends. I need to remind myself to take deeeeeep breaths so I don't get worked up over stuff!!!

Rachel405 · March 2012

MilkDuds I was just looking at your website and I was wondering what type of guestbook you had? Did you just make a photbook and have people sign anywhere inside?

ChristineNB · March 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_the-bachelor-party?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:1026267a-6e21-4da3-90ea-e03a1a972618Post:c98b3554-2ca9-4e6a-90d0-5bc994221fd0">Re: The bachelor party</a>:
[QUOTE]I don't have any basis for why I'm not a fan, I guess I just have a negative perception of it from movies and stuff (Hangover anyone?). I totally trust him and everything though. I was just wondering if anyone else didn't love the idea. I'm not controlling ( really ) and he can do whatever he wants, but I just don't like the idea of it in general. I am under a lot of stress for a lot of other things these days, and I don't think normally I would feel this way, it's just a stressful feelng that I have and I wanted to know if anyone else did too. Sorry-probably being nuts :(
Posted by Rachel405[/QUOTE]
So even though his idea of a bachelor party is just going to see a band which is oh so not typical you still are uncomfortable?

Also, how many times has Hollywood been wrong about their perceptions on things. Hollywood taught me nothing about growing up, dating, or life, so why should I trust their view of Bachelor parties to be accurate. I think most bachelor parties are pretty tame.

ChristineNB · March 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_the-bachelor-party?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:1026267a-6e21-4da3-90ea-e03a1a972618Post:92e883fa-9d50-44b2-839d-2ac14a345e2f">Re: The bachelor party</a>:
[QUOTE]Why are you not a fan of him going with his friends to AC? What do you think they'll do? I may be in the minority on this, but I really don't care what he/they do. I think they plan on his end is to go to Montreal at some point this summer with a large group. 3 guys in his group (including him) are getting married this year, so I think it's a combined thing. What they do up there really doesn't matter to me b/c I know he won't 'do' anything except have fun. If they want to go to strip clubs, go ahead. But again, I think I'm in the minority. Things like this don't bother me and he also doesn't care what the girls do for me. I trust him and our relationship (not saying you don't trust him/your relationship, just a statement on mine)
Posted by amymaysa[/QUOTE]

Amymaysa, I love your attitude. This is similiar to my view of my fiance. I trust him and am not worried about him cheating or doing anything he knows I wouldn't be ok with. I fully expect him and the guys to have a bachelor party, and I fully expect them to go to a strip club, and my fiance will probably drink alot and get a lap dance, and that's fine. I know that in the end he's coming home to me, so what do I care if he has a little fun every now and then staring at other women. I may also be in the minority here though as fiance and I have actually gone to strip clubs together.

Rachel405 · March 2012

I'm good now, see my PP........

Rachel405 · March 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_the-bachelor-party?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:14Discussion:1026267a-6e21-4da3-90ea-e03a1a972618Post:268b876a-f442-4bbb-90b8-c126e63b94dc">Re: The bachelor party</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: The bachelor party : People will still continue to respond because it's not actually all about you........
Posted by LingerLonger1[/QUOTE]

I understand that.....I was answering Christine
"So even though his idea of a bachelor party is just going to see a band which is oh so not typical you still are uncomfortable?"

ChristineNB · March 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: The bachelor party : I understand that.....I was answering Christine "So even though his idea of a bachelor party is just going to see a band which is oh so not typical you still are uncomfortable?"
Posted by Rachel405[/QUOTE]
No worries Rachel, I get your point that you are feeling better with all this. I had not fully finished reading the thread when I posted, but had wanted to chime in.

Rachel405 · March 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_the-bachelor-party?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:14Discussion:1026267a-6e21-4da3-90ea-e03a1a972618Post:913fdea3-f2a8-431f-aaaa-424db6e4f980">Re: The bachelor party</a>:
[QUOTE]FI and his group of guys are going to Memphis for the weekend. Bars, titties, and lots of booze. NBD.
Posted by rachers1017[/QUOTE]

Lol.......I love the abbrev "NBD." That need to be my new motto.

I feel like I'm losing my mind....I have a pretty stressful job and planning a wedding in 6 months on a VERY small budget in an expensive city gets to me sometimes.

.......NBD

cwaggoner07 · March 2012

All of FI's friends have gone to Vegas for their bachelor parties, but he wanted to do something different, so they're all going to Los Angeles.
He moved out there for a year and a half while we were dating to attend film school, and none of his friends have ever been out there. He will get to show them around, go hang out at the beach, just do California stuff. I really don't know exactly what they plan on doing, and I really don't even care. He was in LA for a year and a half without me, I got the trust thing DOWN.

KayCee85 · March 2012

My fiance was suggesting just a night out in Phildaelphia for his bach. party, but I'm pushing for a weekend in Atlantic City! (we only live about 40 minutes from AC and ten or so from center city philadelphia). In my opinion, he doesn't get out near as much with "his boys" as he should. Although,I'm pretty laid back and could care less what he's doing during his bachelor party, I can see where you're coming from, because I've seen friends get bent out of shape when their now husbands were away for their bach parties. But think of it this way, you're marrying this man for a reason, you obviously trust him. Don't drive yourself crazy over it! These wild nights out never live up to the hype anyway.

NinaSchwab · March 2012

My fiance is going camping with his friends! I was surprised when he told me this, because I thought for sure we were both going to want to do our parties in Vegas. Guess me and my girls are the only ones that are going to get crazy!!

NinaSchwab · March 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_chit-chat_the-bachelor-party?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:14Discussion:1026267a-6e21-4da3-90ea-e03a1a972618Post:545123db-ad6b-437f-834d-72bb961ee6b1">Re: The bachelor party</a>:
[QUOTE]I have got to say i am glad to have found this post. I have been having mixed feelings about my FI bachelor party too. The guys are taking him to vegas for a WEEK. I know they will have fun and I trust him. But somethng just dosent sit well, maybe it is the fact that they keep joking that it is going to be thier version of the Hangover. I know they will have fun and enjoy it. In my own way Im a bit jealous. LOL
Posted by naforeman84[/QUOTE]
WHAT the WHAT?! Vegas for a WEEK? No no no no no. No. Really? Have they ever been to Vegas? Last year my fiance and I went for three days and we literally wanted to burn the city to the ground by the last day. Unless you're a professional poker player, more than a day or two is ridiculous. And I must admit, I'd be suspicious too.

NcsuPsych · March 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: The bachelor party : WHAT the WHAT?! Vegas for a WEEK? No no no no no. No. Really? Have they ever been to Vegas? Last year my fiance and I went for three days and we literally wanted to burn the city to the ground by the last day. Unless you're a professional poker player, more than a day or two is ridiculous. And I must admit, I'd be suspicious too.
Posted by NinaSchwab[/QUOTE]

Just because you sucked at gambling and hated the place doesnt mean others will hate it too. A week isn't unheard of for vacations. Also, saying you'd be suspicious because your FI would be gone for a week to vegas is ridiculous. What if your FI has to go on a business trip for a week, will you be suspicious then too? . . . Grow up.

naforeman84 · March 2012

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: The bachelor party : WHAT the WHAT?! Vegas for a WEEK? No no no no no. No. Really? Have they ever been to Vegas? Last year my fiance and I went for three days and we literally wanted to burn the city to the ground by the last day. Unless you're a professional poker player, more than a day or two is ridiculous. And I must admit, I'd be suspicious too.
Posted by NinaSchwab[/QUOTE]

Nina ... lol, thanks... I am ok with it. They are going to hang out not just gamble... none of them have ever been there before. They have a friend who lives there during the winter months so they are planning on lots of fun stuff like the Hoover dam, the strip, gambling one night (I mean they don't want to go to Vegas without gambling at least a quarter, as my FI says) they are doing the Richard Petty Driving Experience and lots of the attractions like the roller coaster on the top of the building and taking some day trips to different places. I know it will be fine. I'm not suspicious per say just kind of blah and jealous.. i have always wanted to go to Vegas. LOL
sorry you didn't have a good time there hopefully their trip is better. I hope they just have fun and hey if my fiance wins big ill be happy. :)

Rachel405 · March 2012

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Posted by ILoveMilkDuds[/QUOTE]

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heatherfitz · March 2012

Ehhhh...I'm conflicted. I'm pretty down with the trust thing but the thought of some other chick's titties or hoo-ha being rubbed on my dude kinda makes me gag. And he's not all about wang in my face either, so we both agreed no strippers/dancers.

Our plans are up in the air at this point. We're in Arkansas and it's expensive to fly anywhere fun. We'll probably end up doing opposing weekend trips driving to a city with friends. We shall see

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