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  • desertsundesertsun member
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    Posted by desertsun[/QUOTE]
    I'm not a troll, you might be one but not me! Thank you.:)
  • edited December 2011
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: IS IT WRONG?? : I'm not a troll, you might be one but not me! Thank you.:)
    Posted by iloveguero09[/QUOTE]


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  • Wrkn925Wrkn925 member
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    edited December 2011
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: IS IT WRONG?? : I'm not a troll, you might be one but not me! Thank you.:)
    Posted by iloveguero09[/QUOTE]


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  • edited December 2011
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: IS IT WRONG?? : This would be better if it didn't have the big brothers thing at the bottom.
    Posted by Wrkn925[/QUOTE]
    Yeah and what am i the big white cat??
  • LizzyTish88LizzyTish88 member
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    edited December 2011
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: IS IT WRONG?? : Yeah and what am i the big white cat??
    Posted by iloveguero09[/QUOTE]

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  • edited December 2011
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: IS IT WRONG?? : Yeah and what am i the big white cat??
    Posted by iloveguero09[/QUOTE]

    I think what she's trying to say is that the contents of your message board posts reflect your maturity level.. hence the "I know you are, but what am I"
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  • edited December 2011
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: IS IT WRONG?? : I think what she's trying to say is that the contents of your message board posts reflect your maturity level.. hence the "I know you are, but what am I"
    Posted by ADTonk[/QUOTE]
    Why in the hell are still posting imature comments on my post then I mean it goes both ways its not just me. Maybe you and and your other friend should check your maturity level because the only people I see being imature about things are ya'll sorry! You dont want imature comments then dont post imature comments on my wall thank you.
  • Wrkn925Wrkn925 member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_wrong-3?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:97d3488f-6d0b-41e4-8bd9-8ba8d63fec4dPost:b3d1cf51-3ed8-4e97-95db-94670ed4ff0d">Re: IS IT WRONG??</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: IS IT WRONG?? : Why in the hell are still posting imature comments on my post then I mean it goes both ways its not just me. Maybe you and and your other friend should check your maturity level because the only people I see being imature about things are ya'll sorry! You dont want imature comments then dont post imature comments <strong>on my wall</strong> thank you.
    Posted by iloveguero09[/QUOTE]


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    Yes, I am being immature, only in full sentences.
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  • AudgiePodgeAudgiePodge member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_wrong-3?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:97d3488f-6d0b-41e4-8bd9-8ba8d63fec4dPost:b3d1cf51-3ed8-4e97-95db-94670ed4ff0d">Re: IS IT WRONG??</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: IS IT WRONG?? : Why in the hell are still posting imature comments on my post then I mean it goes both ways its not just me. Maybe you and and your other friend should check your maturity level because the only people I see being imature about things are ya'll sorry! You dont want imature comments then dont post imature comments on my wall thank you.
    Posted by iloveguero09[/QUOTE]

    This isn't high school. If they bother you that much, try being mature and ignore them. I think you're closer to 15 than 18. How you post and reply definitely reflects that.
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  • edited December 2011
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: IS IT WRONG?? : Yes, I am being immature, only in full sentences.
    Posted by Wrkn925[/QUOTE]
    Haha O.K. but when you want me to be more mature, and your still being imature then I really dont think you have room to talk. I've done my job to take all of you womens advice and i've started to change my maturity level.. Now it's your turn.
  • edited December 2011
    Honey, I think you're confusing sarcasm and immaturity.

    You asked a question.
    These women gave you answers.

    Please reread Peekaboo's advice.  Is it what you want to hear? Probably not.  Is it what you need to hear? YES.
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  • edited December 2011
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    [QUOTE]Honey, I think you're confusing sarcasm and immaturity . You asked a question. These women gave you answers. Please reread Peekaboo's advice.  Is it what you want to hear? Probably not.  Is it what you need to hear? YES.
    Posted by ADTonk[/QUOTE]
    Seriously, O.K. if you want to think that go right ahead my friend.
  • edited December 2011
    O.K. i'm tired of waisting my time trying to explain to ya'll that I do know i have a attitude problem, and i'm working extremely hard on it. But it dont help when I still have these ridiculously rude women still  knit picking EVERYTHING I do wrong. Thank you so much for your advice, and it sure has helped but, for you nasty women that think its ok to insult someone to make your self feel better, dont have any sense to not be rude good luck with ya'll I would seriously look at how i acted an try to change it. Have a great day and good luck all of ya'll who are getting married and is already married. :)

  • MLekathLEENMLekathLEEN member
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    [QUOTE]O.K. i'm tired of waisting my time trying to explain to ya'll that I do know i have a attitude problem, and i'm working extremely hard on it. But it dont help when I still have these ridiculously rude women still  knit picking EVERYTHING I do wrong. <strong>Thank you so much for your advice, and it sure has helped but,</strong> for you nasty women that think its ok to insult someone to make your self feel better, dont have any sense to not be rude good luck with ya'll I would seriously look at how i acted an try to change it. Have a great day and good luck all of ya'll who are getting married and is already married. :)
    Posted by iloveguero09[/QUOTE]

    Well at least this conversation went <em>somewhere</em>.

    Take into consideration what the women suggested: grammar& punctuatuation allow you to communicate better with others on these boards.  It's just how it is.  If you have any more questions, stick around and ask.  We might not tell you what you want to hear, but we will tell you what we think.  I've gotten advice from some of these ladies and the advice that they have given me has been better than any piece of advice that my IRL friends could have given me. 
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  • edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_wrong-3?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special%20Topic%20Wedding%20BoardsForum:136Discussion:97d3488f-6d0b-41e4-8bd9-8ba8d63fec4dPost:4a057680-28e6-48b0-8426-4fa12a1aca25">Re: IS IT WRONG??</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: IS IT WRONG?? : Well at least this conversation went somewhere . Take into consideration what the women suggested: grammar& punctuatuation allow you to communicate better with others on these boards.  It's just how it is.  If you have any more questions, stick around and ask.  We might not tell you what you want to hear, but we will tell you what we think.  I've gotten advice from some of these ladies and the advice that they have given me has been better than any piece of advice that my IRL friends could have given me. 
    Posted by ADTonk[/QUOTE]
    @ADtonk I understand that they are trying to help me, I know that but why would I want to ask any questions when most of the women WERE being rude I'm not sayin all that has had a response to my post but a good number of them, thank you though so much for your advice.
  • polkadot111polkadot111 member
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    edited December 2011
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: IS IT WRONG?? : @ADtonk I understand that they are trying to help me, I know that but why would I want to ask any questions when most of the women WERE being rude I'm not sayin all that has had a response to my post but a good number of them, thank you though so much for your advice.
    Posted by iloveguero09[/QUOTE]

    Again, this is an open forum. Anyone can respond. By posting on these boards, you have to expect to get all types of responses...
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  • edited December 2011
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: IS IT WRONG?? : Again, this is an open forum. Anyone can respond. By posting on these boards, you have to expect to get all types of responses...
    Posted by polkadot111[/QUOTE]
    O.K. but I am not going to let someone be rude to me the thing that i guess ya'll are having a  hard time understanding is . I dont know that you call rude but again some of these women are being rude.
  • heyimbrenheyimbren member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_not-engaged-yet_wrong-3?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:136Discussion:97d3488f-6d0b-41e4-8bd9-8ba8d63fec4dPost:8115c13f-b2eb-49d5-b1c5-0e9b1be0f6b3">Re: IS IT WRONG??</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: IS IT WRONG?? : O.K. but I am not going to let someone be rude to me the thing that i guess ya'll are having a  hard time understanding is . I dont know that you call rude but again some of these women are being rude.
    Posted by iloveguero09[/QUOTE]

    If you think everyone is just being so rude, then stop posting. Don't come on here and people will stop responding to you.
  • edited December 2011
    iloveguero09:  you're being a little aggressive.  I'd suggest taking a breath, stepping away from the computer for a little while, and realizing that no one is trying to be mean or rude to you.  you've admitted you have an attitude problem, and it's really showing right now.  while you may think that people are being rude, the problem may be that you are having some insecurity problems.  if you don't like what someone says, then ignore it.  that's all you can do.

    I'd also suggest some anger management techniques, like slow-breathing and even meditation.  not only will it help with your attitude, but it will make you feel better physically, emotionally, and mentally.  and your boyfriend and son deserve that.  you deserve that.

    also, is your son by your boyfriend, or is there a different father in the mix?  are you still attending high school?
  • edited December 2011
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    [QUOTE]iloveguero09:  you're being a little aggressive.  I'd suggest taking a breath, stepping away from the computer for a little while, and realizing that no one is trying to be mean or rude to you.  you've admitted you have an attitude problem, and it's really showing right now.  while you may think that people are being rude, the problem may be that you are having some insecurity problems.  if you don't like what someone says, then ignore it.  that's all you can do. I'd also suggest some anger management techniques, like slow-breathing and even meditation.  not only will it help with your attitude, but it will make you feel better physically, emotionally, and mentally.  and your boyfriend and son deserve that.  you deserve that. also, is your son by your boyfriend, or is there a different father in the mix?  are you still attending high school?
    Posted by CocoBellaF[/QUOTE]
    <div style="font-family:Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;font-size:10pt;background-color:#ffffff;color:#000000;line-height:normal;padding:8px;"><div style="font-family:Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;font-size:10pt;background-color:#ffffff;padding:8px;">Well my sons father raped me thats how i got pregnant. yes im still attending high school i have the rest of this and next year and i graduate.</div></div>
  • edited December 2011
    I'm sorry to hear about your rape.  I know that it can be life-shattering.

    since you've still got some time before you graduate from high school, I'd recommend that you really concentrate on learning some self-control and making good grades.  it's a great investment in your future, and it'll give you something to be proud of.  it'll also be a great distraction when you start to obsess about getting engaged or married.  you will never regret a good education, I can promise you that!
  • edited December 2011
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    [QUOTE]I'm sorry to hear about your rape.  I know that it can be life-shattering. since you've still got some time before you graduate from high school, I'd recommend that you really concentrate on learning some self-control and making good grades.  it's a great investment in your future, and it'll give you something to be proud of.  it'll also be a great distraction when you start to obsess about getting engaged or married.  you will never regret a good education, I can promise you that!
    Posted by CocoBellaF[/QUOTE]
    Yea thats deffinatly true:). I'm gonna graduate before we start any major planning for the wedding...
  • edited December 2011
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: IS IT WRONG?? : Yea thats deffinatly true:). I'm gonna graduate <strong>before we start any major planning for the wedding</strong>...
    Posted by iloveguero09[/QUOTE]

    wedding planning can really suck.  you shouldn't do ANY planning for a wedding (even minor planning) until you've graduated and have a steady jobs, a steady income, and some savings.  I know weddings and engagement sound so romantic, but it's no more romantic than dating... and a LOT more stressful and expensive.

    also, you really should go to pre-marital counseling and work your way through a book like Saving Your Marriage Before It Starts or 1000 things to ask before getting engaged.

    don't just graduate...  do WELL in school. 
  • edited December 2011
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    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: IS IT WRONG?? : wedding planning can really suck.  you shouldn't do ANY planning for a wedding (even minor planning) until you've graduated and have a steady jobs, a steady income, and some savings.  I know weddings and engagement sound so romantic, but it's no more romantic than dating... and a LOT more stressful and expensive. also, you really should go to pre-marital counseling and work your way through a book like Saving Your Marriage Before It Starts or 1000 things to ask before getting engaged. don't just graduate...  do WELL in school. 
    Posted by CocoBellaF[/QUOTE]
    Thank you:)
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    Me thinks we're chasing our tail.


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  • edited December 2011
     dont see why anyone wouldnt have a ring, it is only a symbol, and can cost any amount, a man can ask you to marry him without a ring, but then dont you just go and choose one within your budget, people always find a means to get the things they want, like dinners out, cars, vacations, nice clothing whats the difference, sounds like a cop-out to me, like getting married but not been able to afford a dress, you would in principle get any dress what was suitable within your budget, like i said i see it as a symbol, you can always upgrade later in life like your wedding aniversary's etc: when you have more desposible income.
  • edited December 2011
    Your right there was a lot of Rudeness going on, especially as they dont know you enough to go so hard on you, they were right in there intention's but sometimes it's not what you say but how you say it. But hey this is internet Forum for you, its not for the faint of heart, wishing you all the best and hope all the right things and right relationships happen for you, most of us have all the wrong thinking at 18yrs old, just take your time.
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