My bridesmaids are all my childhood friends. While they are extremely talented wonderful women, making money has never been a priority in life. This is fine. Our wedding is very budget friendly. I let the bridesmaids choose their own dresses (basic color) scheme and shoes. I purchased the jewelry. It's in our hometown where two of them live. My sister is my maid of honor and she threw an amazing bridal shower/bach. party, which none of the other three attended (it was in Arizona). This was also fine, since I had a lot of family instead. I'd be lieing if I didn't say I was a little dissappointed, but I still understood. Now my one bridesmaid is not sure she can come to the wedding at all due to cost to fly there. Two months before the wedding she is telling me "please don't replace me, I'm just not sure".
I know it is very, very unlikely she will attend. However, I had no intention of replacing her. I am wondering what to do about the Ceremony program. I already have an extra name down on my bridesmaid side to honor my best friend who passed away two years ago. I think it'll be weird to list 5 bridesmaids and only have 3. I'd rather if people weren't questioning where the missing bridal attendent is. Should I keep the "undetermined" bridesmaid on there or would it be ok to take her off? The programs take some time to assemble, so I want to print them as soon as possible.