My fiance and I are high school sweethearts. We got engaged last February after dating for 3 years (as of now we've been together for 4 years, engaged for 1 year, and we're both 22). Ever since we got engaged, she makes little remarks like "you guys are so young... are you SURE you know what you're doing?" ...or... "aren't you guys sick of eachother yet?". I'll mention how Craig (my fiance) works a lot and she'll say "you're getting tired of him, aren't you?" NOOOO!!! She even says "Are you SURE you've 'whored around town' enough to settle down?" Yah, this has been going on FOR OVER A YEAR!! She refuses to accept that we're
actually getting married.
Now, it's a well known fact that my mom can be crazy and irrational, and apparently she regrets marrying my dad when she was 21... her relationship with my dad is SO disfunctional, mostly because she's nuts and overreacts about everything -- when I was in middle school, she made a huge scene at a restaurant in Disney World, accusing my dad of cheating on her. Yep, I had to explain to her that she had no reason to think that (I was like 13). That's just one example.
Craig and I stopped eating meat recently, and the other night she went out with us and said to Craig "Kaylee is forcing you to not eat meat... don't listen to her!" It's like she's TRYING to break us up! Of course, it's not going to work, but it's getting ridiculous!!! We've been engaged for a year, together for 4, and our minds have not changed -- we've tried explaining this to her, but she never understands. She also thinks I need to dress sexy all the time and "look my best" or he's going to leave me. I could go on and on and on...
Now we're actually starting to make wedding plans and all she says is "You're really going through with this?" A few months ago she said she wasn't going to look at wedding dresses with me (because she wasn't excited for the wedding), so I told her I would go with Craig's mom instead. She got so upset and started saying "OH so she's the cool mom and I'm the witch!?!" It's true though, if she's going to act like this then I don't want her to be involved!
It's hard because we're a really close family and, I'll admit, want my mother's approval. How do I explain to her that every time she questions my decision, it's hurting me more and more? Has anyone else had this problem?