No, this is not about what you think it is! I am 100% thrilled that my bridesmaid, and friend of 25 years is pregnant!
Her baby is due very soon, and my bachelorette party is scheduled for mid September. So by that time, the baby will be over a month old.
My Sister/MOH has been discussing the plans with me. Part of the plans include renting a limo, and the restaurant and bar that we'll be going to, just happen to be extremely close to this BM's house, making it pretty convenient for her.
Sister mentioned to me that this BM is concerned that she may need to go home to feed the baby if she is breastfeeding, so she didn't think having a limo was a good idea, and suggested maybe renting a van and having her husband drive us.
Here's the thing that bugs me.. if she has a baby or whatever, that is something that she needs to figure out, if she wants to attend and be a part of the bachelorette party. I don't think that the plans for the night should have to revolve around her situation. If she thinks that she may need to go home to feed the baby, then she should drive her own car, and take care of her own business. Since the places we will be at are so conveniently close to her house, that really shouldn't be a problem for her. Of course I'd love for her to be there, but this is something she tends to do quite a bit - things always end up being about her, and what is convenient for her. (she did something like that on my 30th birthday as well).
Also.. I've never had a baby, so I don't know for sure, but if you are breastfeeding, can't you just pump the milk into bottles and use that to feed the baby when you aren't around? I have a few friends with babies and I remember them doing that all of the time when they were breastfeeding.. I think there is the issue where a baby may not want to drink from a bottle? But this baby will be over a month old by this time..so correct me if I'm wrong on that one.. also, I'd assume if she had to physically breastfeed the baby that night, it would be more than 1 time during a 7 hour period, wouldn't it? So in that case, it doesn't sound like she'd be able to come out with us at all..so to me, having to only go home one time that night to feed the baby just doesn't make sense....
I hope it all works out in the end, and my sister keeps telling me to not worry about this bridesmaid, she will make sure the night goes smoothly and doesn't become "all about her".. so we'll see!