Hand-outs...?

sabatron · June 2010

Is it weird to hand out some invitations personally to people you see frequently? (Close friends, siblings, coworkers, etc) My mom seemed to think it was kind of tacky, but I said why not? Seems stupid to mail an invitation to our best friends who are in the wedding, rather than just handing them an invitation the next time we hang out.

jnic0319 · June 2010

I don't think so, I am definitely handing out invites to immediate family. Why waste a stamp on mom or sister?

aragx6 · June 2010

Personally, I think all formal correspondence should go through the mail, and that it's a bit tacky to do it.

Regardless, I've been handed an invitation before, and I suspect it's pretty common.

aragx6 · June 2010

Plus, who doesn't like getting mail? (That isn't a bill, of course)

mags0607 · June 2010

I think the proper thing to do is mail the invitation, but I don't think it would be "OMG the rudest thing ever" if you hand-deliver a few. i wouldn't do this for all guests, just a few you are very close to.

My mother clutched her pearls really tighlty and deemed it "impoper" when Fi mentioned doing this in front of her, so I can kind of see where yur mom is coming from.

Simply Fated · June 2010

It's a good way to save money on postage, but not really my taste.

I mean, it's less awkward to just mail it so they can go over it at their own leisure. This way, they won't feel obligated to give you an answer right away or feel they dont' have to RSVP properly...
Plus, I'm not sure how you hang out with them, but I know my friends are the type to, like, leave the invitation where we are by accident. If you mail it to the house, there is a less chance of them losing it in some random location. Less chance of them getting dirty or being destroyed before they even get opened, too.

jnic0319 · June 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_hand-outs?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:02657cc0-f7d3-4a99-bd9f-93ba3db4876aPost:290dafaf-c0e8-45bf-a3b9-8b73e86146ec">Re: Hand-outs...?</a>:
[QUOTE]Personally, I think all formal correspondence should go through the mail, and that it's a bit tacky to do it. Regardless, I've been handed an invitation before, and I suspect it's pretty common.
Posted by aragx6[/QUOTE]

I don't think it's tacky. I've been to a couple of platinum weddings that I have been handed the invite to. In fact, if my sister mailed me an invite I would probably yell at her for wasting $.44. I think you're being over critical. Immediate family and bridal party members, I do not see a problem with.

aragx6 · June 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_hand-outs?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:02657cc0-f7d3-4a99-bd9f-93ba3db4876aPost:ac376ecb-b7da-4d6a-8748-cee83cad93ff">Re: Hand-outs...?</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Hand-outs...? : I don't think it's tacky. I've been to a couple of platinum weddings that I have been handed the invite to. In fact, if my sister mailed me an invite I would probably yell at her for wasting $.44. I think you're being over critical. Immediate family and bridal party members, I do not see a problem with.
Posted by jnic0319[/QUOTE]

She also mentions co-workers and close friends.

Kristin&eric · June 2010

yup i would personally like to mail them! But i wouldnt think that is rude when i got it from someone and like PP said who doesnt like getting mail?? It beats getting bills inthe mail!!

jnic0319 · June 2010

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_hand-outs?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:02657cc0-f7d3-4a99-bd9f-93ba3db4876aPost:03f5a92e-94e9-4e5c-a74c-f52d9a160d6d">Re: Hand-outs...?</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Hand-outs...? : She also mentions co-workers and close friends.
Posted by aragx6[/QUOTE]

Right and I think this is only appropriate for your bridal party and immediate family. Co-workers and other friends you see on a daily basis not so much.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown · June 2010

It's so nice to get personal mail. I love it.

Also, how much are you really planning on saving? $5 tops?

lauralaur · June 2010

I just find it so exciting to get them in the mail that I'd rather have it mailed to me. My mom was stoked to get hers in the mail and she'd seen all of them before they went out! So, that's how I feel about it.

quotequeen · June 2010

I wouldn't do it. My mom said she wants me to give her the invitation when I see her instead of mailing it, and I'll do that because she told me to, but I'm a little uncomfortable even with that!

SarahPLiz · June 2010

I picture the co-worker hand out looking like a scene from MTV's My Super Sweet Sixteen, or whatever that drivel is.. where all the kids line up at someone's house and beg for invitations, and are so dicappointed when their name is not on the list.

melissamc2 · June 2010

This is one of those situations that would entirely depend on the couple doing it. If I knew they were on a super tight wedding budget and were cutting costs on everything - I'd be fine if I got an e-vite from them, honestly. If I knew they were arranging for trained swans to escort their guests to their seats - I'd be pretty critical of them cutting costs on something like stamps.

On the whole, I feel that wedding invitations (all of them) should be mailed - but I'm not going to be scandalized if I'm handed one from time to time. It's pretty minor in the grand scheme of life.

pooh8402 · June 2010

nah. DH's coworkers and my family all asked us to not waste the postage. so we hand-delivered these.

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