Kids..

jenniferbrito · May 2012

are you allowing kids at your wedding? If not how do you let yor guests know that kids are not allowed or how do you word it on your invite?

jessbrooks1024 · May 2012

I am allowing kids because I have several younger cousins. If you do not want kids at your wedding just address the envelope Mr. Mrs. Smith, instead of Mr Mrs Smith and family. If it is address only to the adults they should know that kids are not invited. I hope that helps.

Danny&Mel2003 · May 2012

We have decided no babies were still debating on 10 and up. The invitation will be written up exactly who is invited ex. A and C P_______ if it were addressed A and C P____ and family that would include children. Plus on the RSVP if they still Include kids names you could always call them and let them know. That's my plan.

SRRL18 · May 2012

We are. My kids will be there so I'm not going to deny other to bring their kids, they are all family, and rather well behaved. When I'm invited to a wedding I never think of bringing my kids because I look at it as a date night. They can come to the ceremony if they want but will be brougth to a sitter afterwards.

turtleslove · May 2012

Didn't really want to but half of my wedding party has kids and if I let them come I have to let everyone else. I am really hoping that since people will have to travel a little ways they will leave thier kids at the in-laws or something... here's hoping!

Annas2013 · May 2012

I didn't want kids,but that was one thing I let my mom have a say in. Mostly because I'm pretty sure there are only 4 kids that are on the guest list.

Just address the invitation by the names of who are actually invited. But be prepared for some people to write their kids' names in, in which case you have to call.

pittpoint1119 · May 2012

We are having kids since my FI cousins decided not to have kids at theres.. It was a HUGE fight. I don't always understand why people don't want kids. My nephews and cousins mean so much to me and they are well behaved.

aprahamian2 · May 2012

We are inviting kids. FI has a lot of cousins with kids that he is really close to. I can't imagine them not being there. I also don't want to have guests choose not to attend because they can't bring their kids (especially those who are traveling quite a distance).

shano06 · May 2012

Our wedding and reception is 18 and over. The only kids that will be there is my sonring bearer and my daughterflower girl. We were told by an event planner that its bad wedding etiquette to say no kids on the invite. She said when addressing the invite to only put the names of those invited, but I'm afraid that my family won't get it and still bring their kids so we are trying to think of a polite way to say it. But there really is no polite way to tell people to leave their kids at home..lol. Half of the guestlist already knows because they keep asking how's the wedding planning going and I'm like oh yea we decided to have an 18 wedding. We were thinking about our invites saying something like 'LaSha and Tristin together with their parents request the pleasure of your company at their 18 and over wedding.' But then that just seemed mean. Good luck cuz I'm struggling with it as well.

melb2013 · May 2012

We are having the children that fell within the "circles" of family we are inviting. I guess I've never understood the "no children" thing. These are people who are related to us in the same way that certain adults are related to us, so I think it's rude not to invite them.

That being said, it is fine to not invite children according to etiquette, but you cannot specify this on the invitation. You simply to not put the children's names on the invitation. You also must invite the children who are in your WP to the reception.

pittpoint1119 · May 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_may-2013-weddings_kids?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:ea657a87-d1dc-4588-999f-31c9deeef720Discussion:c28fa53a-a7cc-4716-96cf-6c42d3326c2ePost:8efa0923-257b-4e4e-a6a9-f20a478385f5">Re: Kids..</a>:
[QUOTE]We are having the children that fell within the "circles" of family we are inviting. I guess I've never understood the "no children" thing. These are people who are related to us in the same way that certain adults are related to us, so I think it's rude not to invite them. That being said, it is fine to not invite children according to etiquette, but you cannot specify this on the invitation. You simply to not put the children's names on the invitation. You also must invite the children who are in your WP to the reception.
Posted by melb2013[/QUOTE]

I agree I never understood why people would not want children who are within their family circle there. My FI cousins did it and lets just say it is kinda ugly between cousins who have small children ages 1, 2 & 4 not being invited. We will have children in the family there just none of my friends ho have kids already and to be honest they love that idea. A night out without them :)

rswans · May 2012

I think most of the kids that could possibly come will all be under 5 (including my MOH who will have a 9 month old) so I think I'll leave it up to the parents to decide what's best.

AMISSA31 · May 2012

No kids at our wedding. I don't have any children (yet). Also to avoid any bad feelings from cousins, etc...about flower girls/ring bearers...we will not have them. We have many little kids in our families. So we have already been spreading the word of no children. We are getting a lot of 'allll right!" or "cool!" "great!" Many parents are looking to enjoy this adult time. Our wedding is on a Friday evening...ceremony @6pm and 5 hour reception starts at 7pm.

MrsItsTricky · May 2012

We are only inviting children from out of town. I wanted to do no children under 12 but it is easier to find a sitter overnight rather than the whole weekend so we are making concessions from people traveling and spending the night here.

SRRL18 · May 2012

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[QUOTE]We are having the children that fell within the "circles" of family we are inviting. I guess I've never understood the "no children" thing. These are people who are related to us in the same way that certain adults are related to us, so I think it's rude not to invite them. That being said, it is fine to not invite children according to etiquette, but you cannot specify this on the invitation. You simply to not put the children's names on the invitation. You also must invite the children who are in your WP to the reception.
Posted by melb2013[/QUOTE]

Agreed. I don't understand it either.

It's up to the parents to take care of their children, and they should be the best judge on how their child will behave. I know my son would probably be able to rock out all night and stay up longer than me, but regardless of that, I choose to not bring him so that I can enjoy myself more.

I find that as long as the kids can have their own space, "away" from the adults in a corner, they will be fine. I'm considering sticking a tiny tent in a corner with lanterns, pillow and sleeping bags for the younger ones to relax in if they want.

SSaltzman87 · May 2012

We're allowing our younger cousins, but no one else's kids. We're going to address them "Mr & Mrs Johnson" as opposed to "John, Jane, Billy & Katie Johnson" or "The Johnson Family". Also on the RSVP card we have a line stating "__ seats have been reserved in your honor" that will hopefully send the message that they can't add anybody.

DivaJenD · May 2012

The only kids at our wedding will be the ones in the wedding (my sister has 3 kids - ages 10, and twins, age 7 (by the time the wedding takes place) and FI's sister has 2 kids - twins, age 4). We'll be putting "Adult Only Reception" on the invites, in addition to addressing invitations specifically to the individuals that are actually invited. Most likely, the 5 children in the wedding party will only stay at the reception to eat and then will go home anyway.

I guess I'm in the minority here, but I have no desire to have kids running around all night at the reception. Nor do I want the parents to have to worry about keeping an eye on them instead of enjoying themselves. Additionally, my budget is set and adding children would just balloon my total guest list beyond my budget.

turtleslove · May 2012

I don't mind having kids at the wedding, I am actually quite close to some of them and couldnt see the day without them. However most of my friends have multiple children so it really adds to the number of guests. 8 kids just from my wedding party then a couple dozen more between the rest of the guests.

At FI brother's wedding last fall his aunt was dressed to the nines but her husband was wearing dischevled khakis and polo. To top it off her boys were dresses in swim shorts, wife beaters and crocs and crawling all over the equipment and tables. They are not babies either. I wonder if we will see their bare bottoms again at our wedding.. lol

sweetbrat89 · June 2012

i am allowing kids at my wedding because I have several kids myself and kids are great why can't they be part of your big day? they are part of your life

jenniferbrito · June 2012

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_may-2013-weddings_kids?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:ea657a87-d1dc-4588-999f-31c9deeef720Discussion:c28fa53a-a7cc-4716-96cf-6c42d3326c2ePost:79bc54b9-1808-4f34-8e28-46b355271583">Re: Kids..</a>:
[QUOTE]The only kids at our wedding will be the ones in the wedding (my sister has 3 kids - ages 10, and twins, age 7 (by the time the wedding takes place) and FI's sister has 2 kids - twins, age 4). We'll be putting "Adult Only Reception" on the invites, in addition to addressing invitations specifically to the individuals that are actually invited. Most likely, the 5 children in the wedding party will only stay at the reception to eat and then will go home anyway. I guess I'm in the minority here, but I have no desire to have kids running around all night at the reception. Nor do I want the parents to have to worry about keeping an eye on them instead of enjoying themselves. Additionally, my budget is set and adding children would just balloon my total guest list beyond my budget.
Posted by DivaJenD[/QUOTE]

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</div><div>I completely agree with you post this is a tricky situation and im thinking the less kids we invite the more adults we can invite but who knows we may end up just getting a baby sitter at the resort and after dinner all the kids can go to the room and the adults can enjoy them selves. I dont want them running around all night during the reception dance it could be distracting lol</div>

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