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August 2011 Weddings

Shower advice

To any DFW brides-I also posted this on the DFW board as well...


One of my MOH is stepping up and organizing a shower in July for me (along with the Bach Party). She is wanting to know my guest list and addys soon. While I was organizing this, I also started to do a guest list for my other shower that my aunt is throwing. That one will be mainly family instead of friends (minus bridesmaids cus they are invited.) Here is the deal. One of FI's groomsmen is his cousin who is in Lubbock. His wife is not due until the end of August. For obvious reasons, she can not attend our wedding. She can not travel by plane/car from beg-middle of June on out. She invited me to her BP and festivities. I want to invite her, but I know she can't come. Should I send her an invite, knowing she can't make it due to how far along she is in her preg.? I don't want to feel like I'm being rude for not inviting her.

What would you do?

Re: Shower advice

  • Invite her.  I would be sad enough to not be able to go to things because I was pregnant.  I would be even more upset that people stopped inviting me.
  • naomikbnaomikb member
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    Since you would invite her if she weren't pregnant, and you would like her to be there, I would send the invitation.  It would be a nice gesture and be nice to feel included even though she won't attend.

  • Also, is she having some kind of complications?  Not being able to travel by car for 2 months before the baby is due seems like a long time.
  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_august-2011-weddings_shower-advice?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:648Discussion:60a714f9-79eb-416f-a4e7-deadd906ff96Post:13668f18-4b85-4b70-acaf-2c25e03c5eb2">Re: Shower advice</a>:
    [QUOTE]Also, is she having some kind of complications?  Not being able to travel by car for 2 months before the baby is due seems like a long time.
    Posted by Meg1036[/QUOTE]

    I'm not sure. That is just what my FI told me when he talked to her husband.
  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_august-2011-weddings_shower-advice?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20Club%20BoardsForum:648Discussion:60a714f9-79eb-416f-a4e7-deadd906ff96Post:147c54c4-a092-414d-b1ee-3302ed722d73">Re: Shower advice</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Shower advice : I'm not sure. That is just what my FI told me when he talked to her husband.
    Posted by meghanttu08[/QUOTE]

    Yeah, I mean, I've never had kids.  Been when/if I do, I'll want to be living my normal life as long as possible.  I know they advise not flying after 36 weeks, but I've never heard of a 2 month period like that.  Obviously, if she is on bedrest or something, or if its what she wants to do, that's fine.  I've just never heard of it.
  • naomikbnaomikb member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-club-boards_august-2011-weddings_shower-advice?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding Club BoardsForum:648Discussion:60a714f9-79eb-416f-a4e7-deadd906ff96Post:147c54c4-a092-414d-b1ee-3302ed722d73">Re: Shower advice</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Shower advice : I'm not sure. That is just what my FI told me when he talked to her husband.
    Posted by meghanttu08[/QUOTE]

    Maybe multiples/twins?

  • Yes I would invite her. I would say something like I know you may not be feeling up to and and I understand but I wanted to extend the invite anyways
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  • Again, IDK. Maybe my FI got mixed up with info. It's only one boy! All I know is she won't be able to come to our wedding, which is fine because the venue is actually going to be taping it so she can watch online!
  • It would be a nice gesture on your end to invite her eventhough you know she can't go. If I were pregnant I would want to still receive an invite :)

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  • AAL2011AAL2011 member
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    I agree with the other girls. I would definitely still invite her as a nice gesture, as you would anyway even if she wasn't pregnant!
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  • You invite her.
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  • Ditto what pps have all said - send an invite as a nice gesture, and no one wants to feel excluded just because they're expecting. 
  • I agree with all PP, definitely invite her!!
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  • My aunt is in Florida and I know she won't be able to make it but, I sent her an invite anyway because if she did live her, she would 100% be at the shower
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  • Same as for the wedding, invite her, even though she cannot come, it is always nice to be included.
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  • I agree with the other girls, invite her. She might not come but at lease it will be a nice gesture and she will feel like she is a part of your wedding.
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  • Ditto PPs, invite her! When I was pregnant with my son, it always bummed me out when people assumed I couldn't come and didn't ask. Maybe she'll surprise you!
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