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I can steal my songs back, right?

shoegal715shoegal715
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Dumb question, but here goes.

My fiance's friend got married last month.  I'm not close to the bride, but we've recently become friends.

Awhile ago, before her wedding, we were talking about our weddings. She asked me if I had picked out songs yet, and I had, so I told her. 

She used all of them for her wedding. I'm talking processional songs for the bridesmaid and her, signing of the registry song, recessional... everything.

I'm not mad, because I've learned to just STFU, and obviously I don't own rights to the songs, but I'm wondering if I should think of new songs.

People don't remember wedding songs, right? 

During my ceremony, I don't want to have a bunch of people thinking: "Wait, these are all the songs Sally used. Shoebitch stole her ideas."
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  • Simply FatedSimply Fated member
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    I doubt anyone will remember what songs she used unless they were really "out there memorable" like 50 Cent during the processional or something.
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  • ootmother2ootmother2 member
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    I seldom remember the songs at a wedding.

    I am Catholic so there are limitations re secular music but not that much in my church
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  • PharmacyBridePharmacyBride
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    Pick the songs that have meaning for you and your husband.  If they happen to be the same songs.. so be it.

    People would only remember if the weddings are back to back.. if you are getting married next year- you are absolutely ok to reuse the songs.  (I would say a month out would be enough time.. people really don't remember the details.. even if they enjoy it at the time.)
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  • Cynthia1207Cynthia1207 member
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    Use whatever it is you want to use.  ''Here comes the bride'' was, I think (and still is), one of the most popular song for the bridal procession.  I don't think I ever thought once ''OMG she used the same song as what's-her-name.  How dare she!''

    If those songs are special to you and FI, use them.  That's what matters: that you guys have a memorable day.
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  • naomikbnaomikb member
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    I'd be pissed if that happened to me too.  You should definitely use your own songs.  People won't notice, there will likely be minimal guest overlap, and they're what you two want.

    The only person that will probably notice is the other bride, and she will know that she stole them from you and hopefully she will feel badly.
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  • shoegal715shoegal715
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_can-steal-songs-back-right?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:ae101105-81ac-4f1d-b1b5-8ebc4152c9d6Post:a225e945-08ca-4eb5-b549-ecc9dbd2dc74">Re: I can steal my songs back, right?</a>:
    [QUOTE]I guarantee that nobody but me can remember what song I walked down the aisle to without looking at the program.  Not even my H.  Use any song you want.  Plus, if you happen to pick a different version of the song, it'll be that much less likely that anyone will remember.  <strong>I'm curious, though - did she give you any indication she was going to use your selections, entirely?  Or explain why?  Because I'd probably want to know.</strong>
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    </div><div>Nope - she never said anything to me.  It's not worth it to me to mention it / confront her about it. </div><div>
    </div><div>Glad you all think no one remember them.  I'm sticking with them :) 

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  • noodle_oonoodle_oo member
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    I don't even remember hearing the songs at our wedding, let alone remember any of the music used at any wedding I've been to that was more than a week ago.  Just use the same songs (especialy since you had alraedy picked them out first!) and don't worry about it!
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  • leia1979leia1979 member
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    1) That seems kinda lazy that she just used all your songs.

    2) As others have said, no one will notice unless they were really unusual. (One wedding I attended used "The Final Countdown" by Europe as the processional.)

    3) Even if some people do notice the similarity, I can't imagine anyone will really care.

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  • DramaGeekDramaGeek member
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    It's been 8 years and people still remember our recessional, but that's because it was "Take Me Out to the Ball Game."  Even though all of our other songs were different, too (my grandmother was mortified that we didn't use any traditional songs), no one remembers any of them.  I'm sure H couldn't have even told you what they were a week later, and he helped pick them out!

    Now I want to know what songs she used/you're using.
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  • sarah0725sarah0725
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    Man, now you've got me feeling paranoid, because we've been pretty careful about picking stuff for our ceremony that is recognizable, but that you don't always hear at a wedding. I'll have to make sure I don't tell any brides I know in real life about my song choices. :)
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