Ok so I know an afterparty is not a pre-wedding party, but I wasn't sure where to ask this.
FI really wants an afterparty, but I never envisioned us having one. He insists that he had more fun at all the afterparties he attended as a GM than the reception, since it was mostly just the WP (brides and grooms included) and no kids, parents, etc. It was always low-key, in someone's hotel room, hanging over the balcony...
Also most of the WP were close friends, an important element missing with our BMs and GMs, as none of them are friends. Not that we couldn't get along, but I just don't think it would be the same.
Another reason I am opposed to this is it would mean we'd have to stay at the same hotel as the WP and our OOT family, whereas we planned on staying at a bed and breakfast, just something a little more classy than the EconoLodge and away from my immature relatives that would bang on our door and make animal sounds in the middle of the night (it happened at my cousin's wedding). The B&B has a midnight "curfew" since it is someone's house, and our reception ends at 10, leaving us 2 hours to get in, but this would mean someone would have to stay sober and drive us back to the B&B, because there is no taxi service in the small town we are getting married in. I have considered driving us, because I don't plan on drinking much at the reception anyway, and could just not drink at the afterparty so FI can have his fun.
I just feel bad saying no because he is not opinionated about anything wedding related and this one thing seems to mean a lot to him, but it just is not what I had in mind.
So what do you think? Yay or nay?
April Siggy Challenge-Wedding Escape: Reading HG/dreaming about Peeta....