How far would you travel...

paprika28 · February 2011

between ceremony and reception venue if you were a guest?

My church is about an hour from the reception site... and I'm pretty sure we're gonna talk to the pastor this Sunday after DD is baptized to see if he'll marry us. Our only real option other than this is to talk to the Lutheran church about 10 minutes from the reception site and see if they would be willing to accept my membership from another Lutheran church and marry us there. Thoughts?

delicatefew · February 2011

ours was a little under an hour. i think it's fine. just be prepared for people to only go to the reception. also, include directions from the church to the venue in your program along with total driving time so they know what they're in for.

get married where you feel it's right for you and FI. don't compromise on a random church just for convenience.

ev4149 · February 2011

Mine is about 45-1 hour depending on traffic. It kind of stinks, but the Catholic church is strict about where you can get married. I've definitely driven an hour between ceremony and reception and thought nothing of it.

miguelhilary2010 · February 2011

To be completely honest, my answer depends on my relationship with the couple. For a really good friend, I would drive the hour between locations. For a so-so friend, I would either whine about it and go, or skip one of them.

If you're really active in your church and it's where you want to have the wedding, then definitely have it there. If (and I don't think this is the case) you picked the church because it's pretty or your mom wanted you to do it, then reconsider having the ceremony closer for everyone's convenience.

CaitC21 · February 2011

Ive traveled an hour from Lansdale to CC.

I think one hour is reasonable, after that, youll get a lot of reception only guests

nicole8586 · February 2011

>>don't compromise on a random church just for convenience.<<

I completely agree. The people that matter to you will be there!

a.lemma4 · February 2011

I think you'll get a lot of reception only guests if it's an hour. If that doesn't other you, then I'd say just do what makes you feel most comfortable. It's your day, the only thing that matters is that you and your FI are happy :-)

paprika28 · February 2011

Thanks guys. MH- to answer the (kind of) question, I've gone to the church since before I could walk. I was confirmed there, my grandparents were married there, my parents were married there, and it's just always been a big part of my family.

And I'm certainly not getting anywhere that my mom wants me to.

as a matter of fact, getting married there will probably piss her off to no end. She hated going to that church. With a passion.

(She was raised baptist, dad & my sister and I were raised Lutheran)

mana8503 · February 2011

I went to a wedding where the ceremony was in New London and reception was in Media... I admit to whining about it. I didn't know until the day of it was so far apart. But they were like you, a church she grew up in, and once I saw the reception hall it was beautiful and I understood better.

I know there's nothing venue wise in our area, so that's why we decided if we make guest drive the hour we'd have ceremony same place as the reception. We aren't really close to a church, and we wanted to be outside (weather permitting). My mom also helped me and said, the people that want to go will come no matter how far. Also most of FI's side will be OOT (his army buddies are everywhere and his family is in NC) so if they can travel hundreds of miles, my mom's side can travel an hour.

hope that helped...

jackiebean26 · February 2011

i think an hour is fine but like delicate said, just be prepared for some people to only go to the reception.

happywithhim715 · February 2011

My ceremony was an 45-1hour drive... I would say I had about 75-80 people come to the church, of the 200 that rsvped yes to the wedding. But thats normal, not everyone comes to the church anyway whether its 5-10mins away or an hour.. So I would pick the church YOU and your FI want... and if they want to go to the wedding they will drive...

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