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christied03christied03
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I kind of have a dilemma. My wedding is in April of next year. I already have FIVE bridesmaids! The problem is that my fiance has two sisters, that we do see on a regular basis and that I get along with well! Should I ask them to be bridesmaids as well? Would it be rude if I don't? Just not sure what to do!!
Thanks in advance for y'alls help! :)
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  • hlq2011hlq2011
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    edited December 2011
    If you want them as BMs, ask them.  They can stand on his side as well, if you'd rather not.  Or they don't HAVE to be in the wedding party, but beware that some people expect siblings to be included.

    I'm not super-close to my FSILs, but I wouldn't have dreamed of not asking them to be BMs.
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  • LoveMuffinsLoveMuffins member
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    edited December 2011
    Ask your FI... sometimes family dynamics think it's rude, sometime sthey don't. My mom was upset that FI didn't ask my bro to be in the WP, but my bro was never expecting to be asked, didn't care that he wasn't, and I knew that. we hardly ever see my bro. I wasn't going to make FI have him be in the WP just becuase he's my bro; instead bro's going to walk my mom down the aisle during the processional.

    If you're close to them though, it might be nice to ask. My FSIL is in my WP; i asked her because we actually hang out outside of family events and get along really well and she's my friend as well as my FSIL. She was really touched to be included.
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  • zitiqueenzitiqueen member
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    edited December 2011
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/special-topic-wedding-boards_moms-maids_bridesmaids-5?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Special Topic Wedding BoardsForum:357Discussion:78a8cbc6-67c9-49dd-91b6-dbbbbe3e185cPost:77abb55f-fbb8-4c43-abd8-3657a6b7a113">Bridesmaids</a>:
    [QUOTE]I kind of have a dilemma. My wedding is in April of next year. I already have FIVE bridesmaids! The problem is that my fiance has two sisters, that we do see on a regular basis and that I get along with well! Should I ask them to be bridesmaids as well? Would it be rude if I don't? Just not sure what to do!! Thanks in advance for y'alls help! :)
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  • KateG528KateG528 member
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    edited December 2011
    You really dont have to ask them. You can find other ways to include them, or they can stand on his side.  My FSIL is my flower girl, but she is 7 and I have been with her since she was 2 and basically watched her grow up. She is like my own little sister.  In your case however you dont sound like you are that close to your FSILs and you should only choose people for your WP that are really close with you. 
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  • GeauxTigers17GeauxTigers17 member
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    edited December 2011
    This is a family dynamic thing too - some families all but expect it and would be super hurt, others don't care at all. Maybe your fiancé could feel it out for you if you're unsure?

    Otherwise, definitely just personal preference, but I'm leaning toward including them absent anything toxic.
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  • kellyb1487kellyb1487
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    edited December 2011
    I had my FSIL escort the 2 ring bearers down the aisle (her son was 1 of them) One of the babies was sick so he slept through the whole thing, but she walked her son down.

    She was glad that she wore whatever dress she wanted and didn't have to take part in a lot of the pre-wedding stuff my BMs planned for me.

    But I made sure to talk about the decision with my DH and MIL first and got there blessings before I talked to her
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  • mhoneillmhoneill
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    edited December 2011
    I was kind of hurt that my FI didn't ask my brothers to be groomsmen, but quickly got over it. I asked his sister even though I really didn't want her to be in it but she declined and is going to read. I think it really depends on the family. We are super close with both of our families.
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  • Cynthia1207Cynthia1207 member
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    edited December 2011
    I'm of the opinion that you ask who you want to ask however, family is important and they will become your family.  If you know they will feel left out or insulted by not being included, I would ask just to avoid unnecessary bad blood.  If they don't care, then do as you wish.  There is nothing wrong with having seven BMs if they are all close to you.
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  • TheKnittingJediTheKnittingJedi member
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    edited December 2011
    My sister is my maid of honor, and FI's brother is one of his groomsmen. I wanted to include FI's sister as well (so that way all of our siblings would be included), but didn't feel close enough with her to ask her to be a BM, though FI and I wanted to include her. So we asked her to do a reading at the ceremony, and she was thrilled. I thought that was a perfect balance.
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