So my mom and I kept going back and forth on this topic and I thought it was settled but I was compiling a list of who to send save-the-dates to and this got re-opened somehow.
So there is a family friend of ours who my parents only ever socialize with the parents anymore. I only ever socialize with the parents anymore. I used to be really good friends with their 2 kids but the sister who I went to high school with and I had a falling out and I haven't talked to her in about 4-5 years now. Things happen. Her old brother and I were sort of seeing each other while I was in high school but things got complicated and we just drifted apart. I haven't talked to him in like 2 years. And as I said previously, my parents still do stuff with their parents and once in awhile I'll even do something with them (never with their kids though).
So the debate was whether these kids get invited or not. I said no because a) I'm not friends with them anymore b) some of the kids of our other family friends are not getting invited (granted I was never friends with their kids...but I'd like to base invites on who I'm currently friendly with and not the past) and c) I just feel weird inviting an "ex friend" who I haven't spoken to in forever and her brother who I had a scandelous pseudo relationship with. It just seems weird to me.
Obviously you can tell that my mom disagrees. She thinks the entire family should be invited. I've held her off on the idea of sending a save-the-date to them since then I'd have to commit to inviting them too but I know I'm just going to have this conversation again in a couple of months when invites need to be ordered.
What do you think? Keep in mind this is the only family this is applicable too. My mom has no problem inviting other family friends without their grown children.