We got engaged on Thanksgiving of 2009 but we aren't getting married until October 2012 because we are paying for the wedding ourselves and need to save up some money. I feel like I have no right to start planning or to be excited because it's so far away and to do anything now would be pointless. We are 90% sure about a venue but I'm not sure if it's too early to be thinking about a photographer and favors. Does anyone have any advice on how to deal with a somewhat long engagment and how I can start to feel excited about it?